Have you had your eye on a special someone lately? Are you mentally willing him to make a move but still waiting for your daydreams to play out in real life? If Mr. Right isn’t steering in your direction, here are 10 ways to redirect him to your path.
- Be mysterious. Don’t tell him everything about you all at once. Leave him guessing. Turn down dates because you have “other plans” without actually revealing what they are. Don’t call him every single day or respond to texts right away. Give him enough attention to show you’re interested but have him wondering if you’re thinking about him when you’re off living your best life. Guys who are interested in a healthy relationship don’t want someone who is clingy and needy, so staying busy and active is a good look.
- Be upbeat. Positive energy is contagious. Adulting is hard enough on its own to add to the stress by always being a dark cloud. Leave him wanting to be an additional reason for that smile on your face. Make him feel recharged when he’s with you so he notices the lack of your vibes when you’re gone. I’m not saying it’s never okay to complain, but just keep a balance and try to add to his life instead of draining him.
- Don’t be basic and super predictable. Show some diverse interests. If you’re always dressed up and on the prissy side, talk to him about the time you went to the shooting range or rode a motorcycle. If he made an initial assumption about the kind of person you are, surprise him. It will make him wonder what else he doesn’t know about you. If everything there is to know is apparent on day one, there isn’t going to be much of a reason for him to keep coming back around.
- Be somewhat open. If you’re completely closed off and disclose nothing, he may assume there either isn’t anything to know or you’re too guarded to try to crack. Start by telling him a few important or intriguing things to know about you and sprinkle some more confessions and personal revelations as you naturally progress along. Let him see there are layers of you to unfold.
- Have other options. If you aren’t in a committed relationship, why commit yourself in advance? If he sees that other guys are interested and like you, it may make him want to find out for himself what they see in you. It kind of goes along with it being easier to find a job while you still have one. If you’ve been single for a long time and he’s the first and only guy you talk to, he may think you scared everyone else off or they know something bad about you that he doesn’t.
- Send him a pic. Sometimes, men really aren’t that hard to figure out at all. While women tend to be emotional, they prefer their visual senses. I’m not saying to put it all out there or seduce him, but something to last a little longer can’t hurt. If you don’t want to come off as obviously thirsty or trying too hard, steal a play from their book and say it’s just to “add to your contacts profile.”
- Remember something about him. A sentimental gesture stands out to most people. If you happened to catch what his usual coffee order is, bring him a cup one day without asking him what he drinks. You don’t even have to spend money on something like this- it could be as simple as knowing he was going to watch a sports game last week and then asking him how the game was. Just show you you’re paying attention to the little things and not self-absorbed. He should appreciate it.
- Have something to talk about. Most of the conversations I had on dating apps that hit it off began with a thought-provoking question or a joke. Making small talk tends to just begin a run-around convo of greeting one another. Stand out to him by saying something different and initiating a dialogue of substance. If you need help coming up with something creative, try searching for dating app conversation starters ideas online. Some of the apps have built-in suggestions as well.
- Take the lead. Guys can be slow to move and drag their feet. He may be interested in you but not willing to make a move unless he’s 100% sure of no chance of rejection. If you get things started, it may spark his interest in pursuing you further.
- Make a good impression. First impressions are usually impactful. Try not to begin things on the wrong foot. Dress well but not too well so you can “wow” him even further down the line. Try not to be late or cancel last minute. Obviously, if you see each other over time things will eventually come up, but if the first encounter can go smooth and you both have a good time there’s a likelier chance of him wanting more.
