We want to trust you, we really do, but you’re not making it easy. If all you are is an over-inflated ego full of empty promises, we won’t stick around for long.
- Most girls can see right through you. Being able to spot a guy who’s all talk is mostly about experience and common sense. While you might be able to fool younger girls who don’t know what signs to look for at first, even they will eventually have you figured out. We aren’t dumb, and we really don’t appreciate you making us feel that way.
- Talk is cheap. Words without any action mean little to nothing when it really comes down to it. You could say every single thing she wants to hear, but if you never actually do anything, you might as well have said nothing at all.
- Respect is earned. Most girls have put up with enough BS from guys to know that the benefit of the doubt is usually best reserved for guys who have already proven themselves. That may sound a little “guilty until proven innocent,” but at some point, protecting ourselves became more important than giving every guy a chance.
- We’ll never trust you. It may be cliche, but it’s true: Fool me once, shame on you, but fool me twice, shame on me. Once you’ve disappointed a girl once, she isn’t going to fall for your promises again. You might be able to get back into her good graces eventually, but be warned — it’s going to be an uphill battle.
- Eventually we’re just going to think you’re a straight up liar. Even if you believe those promises you keep making, we’re going to start thinking you’re just making things up for the sole purposes of messing with our heads. The chance that you could be stupid enough to keep breaking promises over and over without realizing the damage you’re doing does cross our minds– but in the end what’s worse? A guy who’s being a loser on purpose, or a guy who has no idea he’s being a loser, but is still a loser nonetheless.
- If you don’t mean it, don’t say it. You probably should have learned this lesson back in grade school when you got in trouble for telling your mom you’d clean your room after school when really you planned on played video games. We don’t need you to make promises. Stop telling us what you think we want to hear and just be honest — you’ll get a lot more respect that way.
- You only get so many chances. We aren’t exactly proud of it, but sometimes when we really like a guy, we’ll give him more chances than he deserves. We want to believe that he couldn’t possible disappoint us again. But we all have our limits, and once you’ve reached it, there’s no going back. By the time you get your act together, it will probably be too late.
- You aren’t as clever as you think. You might think you have us fooled, but if we’re giving you another chance, it’s because we want to. We’ve probably thought it through and we’re still not 100% sold that you won’t mess up again, but we’re willing to give you one more shot. It’s probably more for our own sense of closure later– so we can say, well I did everything I could, now I can move on.
- Good luck and good riddance. Once we’ve accepted that you’re never going to follow through on anything and it’s time kick you to the curb, there’s no way we’ll ever look back. It was hard enough to accept in the first place, so once we’re rid of you, we’re going to make sure you stay far far away where your empty promises can’t hurt us anymore.
