15 Things Guys Look For In A Girlfriend

15 Things Guys Look For In A Girlfriend

There’s fling material, and then there’s girlfriend material. Guys, even those who are perennial bachelors, will be cavalier about telling people what qualities they’re looking for in another sex. If you have the following qualities, you’re likely every guy’s (or at least some guy’s) dream girl:

  1. You’re a good cook. There is a shocking amount of truth to the phrase, “The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.” Girls who can cook a great meal will always be able to impress guys, especially if she’s a foodie. Believe it or not, this one skill might even be the deciding factor between girlfriend and wife material.
  2. You have a career. The days when guys want to outearn a girl are, for the most part, over. Not many men will want to get into a relationship knowing that they’ll be the sole earner, regardless of what happens. Even a part time job can make a big difference in how he views you.
  3. You’ve got your act together. There’s something very calming about being with a girl who is chill and down-to-earth, regardless of the circumstances. This is usually a sign of “wifey material.”
  4. You know how to stand up for yourself. Believe it or not, guys really don’t respect a doormat, nor do they want one as a girlfriend. There’s just no thrill in the chase if you just roll over, and guys want a chase. It’s just that simple.
  5. You know how to have fun. It’s cute. It’s a sign that you’re happy and lively. Being playful and flirty is a great girlfriend trait.
  6. You’re “ride or die” loyal. In other words, guys don’t want to deal with a girl who they feel will “trade up” the moment someone better comes along. They want a girl who will stick by them through thick and thin.
  7. You’re not materialistic. A lot of men are worried about being viewed as walking ATMs, and they’re even more worried about being with a woman who likes money more than she likes them. In fact, many are even bitter about this issue. If you want to make a guy swoon, show him that you aren’t materialistic.
  8. You know how to take care of herself. Many guys are very worried about marrying a woman who lets herself go. It’s shallow (to a point), but it’s a true concern for many. They want to see you stay in the same shape as the day you got married. It’s not that bad a thing, right?
  9. You’re honest. If he can’t trust you, why would he want to date you?
  10. You’re tidy and clean up after yourself. Let’s just be honest. No one likes to come home to a house that’s filled to the brim with dust, grit, and clutter. You don’t have to be Martha Stewart, but you should at least keep your bachelorette pad reasonably tidy.
  11. You’re presentable. This is why Courtney Love is still single. Deep down inside, guys want someone they can take home to mom and also show off in public.
  12. You value your independence. A girl who can hold her own, has her own awesome history, and can deal with things without the help of a man will always trump ones that are codependent. Sadly, a lot of guys can’t tell codependent girls from independent but vulnerable.
  13. You’re someone he can take home to meet his family. No one wants to have to deal with having to choose between friends and family. If you have the seal of approval from his friends and family, you’re very close to being his girlfriend.
  14. You’ve got a killer sense of humor. Because really, who doesn’t need a laugh once in a while?
  15. You’ve got confidence in spades. It’s the magic word of dating, but if you read The Bolde regularly, you probably already knew that!
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

She regularly writes on her popular Medium page and posts on TikTok and Instagram @ossianamakescontent.
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