Being single can be fun, but most of us do want to find love someday. When it’s time to buckle down and get serious, you suddenly get a lot more picky when it comes to who you date. You find yourself always looking for signs that he could be a good match so that you don’t waste your time on someone a guy who isn’t. Sometimes it can be hard to tell, but if he does any of these things, he’s definitely worth taking a chance on.
- He engages in intelligent conversation at normal times of the day. He calls/texts before midnight and actually wants to have a conversation about life. He doesn’t send unsolicited penis pics or ask for nudes, but he does ask how your day was and discuss real issues and current events with you. This kind of guy is valuable because he sees you as the intelligent being you are rather than just another piece of ass, so you should take a chance on him.
- He remembers details about you and your life. If you told him last week about your big presentation at work and he texts you right after it to ask how it went, he may be a keeper. Players don’t remember details like that because they don’t care about you as a person. Go ahead and give him a shot, because he’ll make you feel exactly as important as you are.
- When you have a bad day, he listens as you vent and makes you feel better. This kind of behavior really shouldn’t be too much to ask for, but we’re living in a world that makes it seem like less of a given. Players will try as hard as they can to make you feel like your problems are just “drama” or a burden, but a real man will realize that you need to vent out your bad day just like they do, and he’ll do anything he can to make you smile again.
- He doesn’t treat you like a Gremlin. For anyone who’s watched How I Met Your Mother, you probably remember Barney’s “Gremlin” rules about keeping a girl from becoming a girlfriend (you don’t shower at each other’s places, you don’t stay over, and you don’t have breakfast together). In the real world, this is complete BS. If he wants to have breakfast or lunch with you, go to a matinee movie and cuddle all night, there’s a good chance he’s boyfriend material.
- He encourages you to better yourself and your life. A player will only encourage you to take off your clothes, and any conversation beyond that is going to be an irritating snooze-fest as he nods along, pretending to be interested in what you’re saying. They think they’re slick, but anyone with half a brain knows they’re full of crap. If a guy is paying close enough attention to offer you real encouragement about bettering your life, you should give him a chance.
- He introduces you to his friends and/or family. It’s always a good sign if a guy wants you to meet the people he’s closest to; it means he could see keeping you around long-term. If he only wanted some casual fun, he’d hang out with them separately and then go see you quickly before bed. Even if his folks aren’t exactly your type, you should realize how special it is that he wants them to know you (and vice versa).
- He makes an effort to impress you. Guys only try hard to be impressive if they feel like they’re trying to impress someone who’s worth it. We’ve all known that guy who’s so lazy and careless that he’ll text “U up?” at midnight and try to come over in pajamas for a quick lay. He must realize that he’s being a complete douchebag but probably doesn’t care. If he plans out something fun to do together and makes himself look/smell great, he’s worth taking a chance on because that’s real effort.
- He tells you you’re beautiful. He uses that exact word; beautiful. If he says you’re sexy or hot, that’s completely different because those words indicate that he sees you only as a sexual object. When a man calls you beautiful, he’s seeing you inside and out in a respectful way. The guy who tells you you’re beautiful is the kind of guy who could end up on one knee with a ring someday if you give him that chance, so don’t discount him too quickly.
- He talks about his family goals. Believe it or not, there are guys in the world who want marriages and families. If he shares that he’s a romantic who wants a house, a wife, and a couple kids (and that’s what you want too), he’s worth taking a chance on.
- He asks for your advice on life decisions. Guys have big huge egos, and they like to pretend they know everything. If he’s humble enough to ask for your advice on a life decision, it means that he trusts you and could see being serious about you. Go ahead and be there for him; it just may last forever.
