You were having lots of fun late-night conversations with the guy you like when he suddenly stopped texting you out of nowhere. Now it’s been a week and you still haven’t heard a peep from him. What gives? Before you freak out, stop and take a deep breath. Here’s how to deal.
- Get him out of your head. If was thinking of you, he would have been in touch. Now that that hard truth’s out of the way, it’s time to think about yourself instead of obsessing about what he’s doing or thinking. Distract yourself with music, social media, friends, work, or thousands of other things.
- Take stock of your feelings. Now’s actually the perfect time to really think about what you want from this guy and if you really like him or not. Just because he hasn’t got in touch, it doesn’t mean that in itself should make you think you want something from him. It could just be your ego that’s bruised. Some time apart from him might make you realize that you don’t even want him.
- Set a deadline. No, this isn’t about calling him up to tell him that he has to text you by a certain date or else he’s out of the picture, but it helps to have this deadline in your mind. So, saying something to yourself like, “I will wait for another two days and then I’ll delete his number” can be really helpful so you don’t waste too much time on him.
- Boost your self-confidence. You might be feeling rejected, so now’s the perfect time to get out there and boost your confidence. Take up a dance class, meet new people, get your hair done, learn a new skill. Whatever makes you feel good and reminds you that you’re worthy of love is a helpful thing to do now.
- Check his social media. It’s never a good idea to get into the habit of checking up on his social media profiles, but it can help you to suss out what’s going on with him. Is he online every few minutes chatting to other people? Is he posting selfies of himself having tons of fun with other women? Seeing that will make you realize that he’s not texting you because he’s not interested. On the other hand, you might see that he’s going through a tough time or he hasn’t even been online, in which case you’re not the reason for why he’s gone AWOL. Maybe give him a bit of time.
- Send him a text. If you’re fed up with waiting around for him, then why not go ahead and text him? However, it’s probably wise to keep your text short and light so that you don’t make him feel pushed into a corner. You don’t want to give a guy who’s not interested in you the hint that you’re chasing him.
- Take his response as his final answer. If he doesn’t reply to your message, it’s crystal clear that he’s not interested and ignoring you. He can go back to playing the role of the invisible man, just not on your time. Bye!
- See what happens. On the other hand, if he responds to your attempt to get you both back on track, it’s good to take it with a pinch of salt. See, he might only be chatting because he doesn’t want to feel like a bad person for disappearing on you, but not because he’s actually interested. It’s not worth taking it seriously. If he’s not serious, he’ll show it by going AWOL again. You’ll get your answer.
- Remind yourself you can do better. Seriously, now’s not the time to think that you’re less worthy because some jerk doesn’t want to text you anymore. That’s his problem and his loss. You need to remember that you deserve better and you certainly don’t deserve to beat yourself up or feel bad. Fuck that guy!
- Decide to delete him right away. Instead of giving him the benefit of the doubt, like by sending him a text to see if he’ll talk to you, you could decide that not hearing from him in seven days is enough of a sign that he’s not interested. Good for you! An entire week really is a long time for someone to disappear on you, especially if they like you. It just doesn’t make sense but it’s not your job to figure out why it’s happening or try to get him to talk to you.
