While Tinder might be the fastest way to find a date for Friday night or a booty call this weekend, you can’t deny it’s not exactly the most romantic place to find a new relationship. In fact, if you’re looking for anything more than a quick hook-up, you’ll want to steer clear because Tinder is absolutely destroying romance.
- It’s all about physical attraction. If you want a relationship with depth and a real connection, personality matters. You’re not reading a profile that tells you much about the person you’re looking at — the only information you get to swipe left or right, yes or no, is a photograph. You’re basing your entire future on one photo. What kind of romance is there in that?
- It gives men a bad rap. Tinder is full of nightmarish men looking for a one-night stand. Women can easily be put off to the entire male population by just a few bad Tinder seeds. Not all men are pigs, but from the majority of Tinder messages, you’d think they were.
- Even the good guys try their hand at being bad boys. Since they’re hiding behind a screen, the so-called “good guys” finally have the courage to be just as dirty as the bad guys, and I don’t mean that in a good way. You know those shy guys who come across as sweet? Well, that’s just a mask. Really those guys are just as crappy as the players, they’ve just never had the courage to ask for what they really want — sex. Until now, that is. Thanks, Tinder.
- You base your decision on a few text messages. As if judging a single picture weren’t enough, the next round of romance consists purely of text messages. A few simple texts where you quickly decide whether or not you ‘click’. Yeah, that makes sense — because talking through a screen is exactly the same as speaking in person… not. You can’t decide your fate over text, because real romance only happens in person.
- It’s pretty damn hard to get a second chance. You screwed up. You said something you didn’t mean, made a joke that wasn’t funny or had a message misinterpreted. It happens — you need to be face-to-face to tell someone’s tone. What can you do now, though? Repeat message them for a second chance? There are no second chances in the Tinder game.
- Everything is about sex. Maybe that’s not the case for you. Maybe you genuinely downloaded this app in an attempt to find love, but that’s not why Tinder was created. The initial goal here was always to find sex. So while you’re swiping for a genuine connection, too many users (if not most) are looking for a one-night stand.
- It’s disturbingly casual. There are no big gestures, no little black dresses, no perfect candlelit dinners. You get no butterflies being hit on by a stranger. The whole system is completely casual. Have you ever heard of casual romance? Yeah, that’s not a thing. It’s the genuine connections and the beauty of a single smile that gives you romance, not a casual swipe of your finger.
- There’s no courage here. Walking up to another human being and having the guts to start a conversation is courageous. Swiping left or right on an app is not. There’s no face-to-face contact here. Your initial decision is from a picture, the second round is a text message, and if you get to the third round, then finally, finally, you actually meet in person. So much for a man sweeping you off your feet…
- It’s a pretty crappy love story. How did you meet? On Tinder. It’s always wonderful when people find true love, but honestly, it’s not the greatest love story. It’s not a story you tell your grandchildren and it doesn’t bring a smile to your face every time someone asks. It’s not even a story. It’s a sentence. You met on Tinder. It was casual AF, and there was absolutely nothing romantic about it.
