10 Times You’re Better Off Single Than Coupled Up

If you’re single in a sea of couples, it’s easy to think that you’d be happier in a relationship. After all, it would be pretty sweet to know that you have someone special in your life through the good times and bad. But there are certain situations when staying solo is so much more preferable:

  1. When you’re in a time of transition Just got fired? Quit your crappy job? Finishing grad school and finding your dream career? Or maybe you’re going out on your own and turning your side hustle into your full-time thing. When you’re a transitional period in your life, it’s so much easier to be single. You can focus all your time and energy into making your dream job a reality, and you don’t want or need any romantic distractions. That can happen later. Really.
  2. When you’re pulled in a million directions There are periods in your life when you’re super tired 24/7. You feel like you’ve got way too many fires going, from your job to your personal life, and it seems like there aren’t ever enough hours in the day to get everything done. When this is your life, it’s not impossible to be in a relationship, but it does make things a lot tougher and more complicated.
  3. When you’re almost heartbroken An almost-breakup may not seem like it counts as much as the real deal, but it can still cause you tons of pain and suffering. When you face this kind of ending, you might be tempted to find an actual relationship ASAP so you can finally achieve your dream of falling in love. But just because you came THIS close to being in a relationship doesn’t mean it’s the right time for you. You need to be on your own a bit longer to work through your emotions and thoughts so you’re prepared the next time you start falling for someone.
  4. When you’re jealous When you notice the green-eyed monster that’s always lurking in the corner of your single girl lifestyle, it’s best to take a step back and remember what you love about your world. You should never let a bit of jealousy be the motivation for finding love. You need to wait until you meet the right person, whether or not all your BFFs have boyfriends.
  5. When you really hate dating At some point, we all loathe the act of dating so much it’s pretty much impossible to get excited about anything. When you feel this way, it’s tough to be clear-headed or really know how you feel about the new guys that you’re going out with. It’s smart to stay single until you become your normal, positive self again.
  6. When you’ve forgotten what you’re looking for Sure, you know who you find attractive and who you don’t, but can you even remember what your true type is? Do you know what qualities you want in a boyfriend and what you will and won’t deal with? When you’ve been so frustrated with dating that you don’t even know what you want anymore, it’s a good idea to figure it all out before getting into anything serious.
  7. When you feel entitled Sometimes you figure, hey, you’ve been single and dating for years now. Your effort should have paid off by now, and you should pretty much be married (if that’s what you want, of course). But guess what? You’re not entitled to love. You deserve it, but that’s not the same thing. It’s best to stay single until you quit thinking this way.
  8. When you’re judging everyone Not every guy you meet will be a total jerk. Most of them are pretty decent, but you just might not be into them for whatever reason. When you realize that you’re judging every guy you meet, that’s a sign that being single is the right thing for you at the moment. You’re just not in the right frame of mind to be in a relationship.
  9. When you stop believing that love exists This one is pretty much a no-brainer: it’s not a good idea to go into a new relationship when you’re in a super cynical place. You’ve dated guys who didn’t believe in love, and that never worked out well, so you already know this isn’t a good thing.
  10. When you want to be Who says that you need to have a boyfriend just because you think it’s “time” or because everyone you know is in love? You can stay single for however long you want. Listen to yourself, because in the end, you’re the only person that you need to make happy.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.
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