Being single isn’t the worst thing that could happen to you, but sometimes it seriously sucks — especially when you’re on your own long-term. You may pretend to your family and friends that you’re having fun because you don’t want anyone to feel sorry for you, but when it’s just you and Netflix, the self-pity is off the charts. Who could blame you when you have to deal with these crappy things?
- You constantly wonder if it’s worth it to keep looking or you should just give up. You always wonder which is worse: continuing to date and meeting jerks and losers one after another, or deciding to just live with being single, even if it lasts forever. The struggle is real and you’re never sure what the right choice is. Ugh.
- You hate Netflix nights. When you’re in a relationship (real or almost), spending a night or two alone with your couch and your current fave TV show is your idea of heaven. It’s your escape from your busy schedule. When you’re super single, you get sick and tired of hanging out home alone and fast. Unfortunately, these are what most of your evenings are like since a lot of your friends have boyfriends.
- You don’t look forward to dates. In your newly solo days, first dates were exciting. They were a chance to meet the love of your life or at least spend a few hours with a cool person. These days, that couldn’t possibly be further from the truth. You dread going on dates and your anxiety is always through the roof.
- You get set up by literally everyone. Your mom. Your aunt. Your coworker. Sometimes even your boss. The truth is that blind dates are just as crappy as any other date. You’ve learned that the hard way. You’d like to meet a great guy, but you’re pretty sure he’s not going to be your cousin’s BFF’s sister’s ex-boyfriend’s little brother. Come on now!
- You can’t shake the loneliness. And you feel guilty about that too, since of course you have people that you love and who love you back. You have close friends and a caring family, but no matter what, you can’t stop feeling lonely 24/7 since you don’t have that special someone to call your own.
- Your love life consists of an endless series of first dates. When people ask if you’re dating anyone, you want to answer with a laugh. All you do is go on first date after first date, and every single one is pretty much worse than the last. You’re dying for the day when you can date the same guy over and over again. Is that too much to ask for?
- You actually consider settling. It really is getting that bad. You’re not sure if settling means literally dating a guy that you hate… or if it just means accepting that no one is perfect and you will have to make some compromises if you want to ever find love. You’ve been alone so long, you actually think seriously about settling, and that totally scares you.
- You’re a nervous wreck when you actually have a crush. When you’re perpetually single and you like a guy, it’s almost worse than having no one in your life at all. You’re pretty much a nervous wreck. You check your phone more than you want to, you overanalyze every text message, and you feel like you just can’t let him get away. It’s enough to send you to your nearest mental institution.
- You feel people’s pity. Being single wouldn’t be so bad… if you didn’t have to discuss with other people. You hate how you can feel everyone’s pity when you talk to them. They feel bad that you keep going on such crappy dates, they wish you could meet a nice guy, and they want you to be in love. Yeah, you want those things too, and talking about it doesn’t really help.
- You’re in a rut 24/7. It’s easy to get into a single girl routine. You have your job, your happy hour with friends, your hobbies. But when you can’t share your life with anyone, you get the feeling that each day bleeds into the next and everything is literally the same. You can’t wait for the day when you finally meet someone that you click with. Until then, you’ll just be here, watching Netflix alone again and thinking about how perpetually single you are.
