I’m a true romantic at heart and I’m not ashamed to admit it. I’m in love with love but that means that I’m the girl who falls for guys far too quickly and easily. It also means that I get myself into these messes when it comes to dating.
- I don’t see the red flags. Love clouds my judgment almost always. When my friends ask me for advice on anything relationship related, I’m the first to point out the positives rather than alerting them to any potential red flags they might be missing out on. It’s great to be an optimist, but not when you ignore the warning signs like I do.
- Every little thing is a big thing. I see what I want to see. I’ll easily convince myself that a guy saying he likes my dress means that he like what’s in the dress, meaning that he likes me. And if he catches my eyes more than once, I’ll think there’s something going on. I won’t hold him to any of it or make any big moves, but I’ll replay every one of those moments in my head before I fall asleep night after night. A girl can fantasize, right?
- I’m not great at being single. Being single should be a time to focus on the other relationships in my life with my family, my friends and myself. But being the girl who falls in love too easily means that I’m never single for long, which means I don’t give myself enough time to figure things out before jumping into another relationship. No wonder so few of them seem to stick.
- I put everything into a relationship, often to my own detriment. I make a damn good girlfriend. If I’m with a guy, I shower him with endless love, affection, and romance. I’ll learn to play his favorite song on guitar and sing it to him, I’ll take him on a surprise date to try scuba diving like he’s always wanted. I always go the extra mile for my guy and that’s great. The only problem is that I forget that it takes two to make a relationship work and jump ahead and do everything myself, often leaving myself empty.
- I don’t handle breakups very well. I don’t think anyone’s actually GOOD at breakups, but I seem to struggle with them more than most people. I take it too personally when things don’t work out, especially after I’ve poured my heart and soul into the guy/the relationship. I find it really hard to move on and don’t do so for a long time.
- I’m the queen of overthinking. At the start of the relationship, even before there’s actually a relationship happening, the amount of overthinking I do is ridiculous. I’ll try and figure out what’s going on and I’ll convince myself you feel exactly what I do.
- It makes me look stupid. I’m a smart girl but I still have my weak spots—mine main one, of course, is love. When it comes to the potential to find “The One,” I’m all about the rose-colored glasses, often leading me to ignore the reality right before my eyes. I listen to my heart over my head and often end up playing the fool because of it.
- I want all or nothing. I don’t do friends with benefits or one-night stands. Just because I fall in love easily doesn’t mean I make compromises on the kind of love I want. I’m a relationship girl who wants more than the Netflix and chill dates every millennial woman is forced to call romance. No thanks.
- I’m easily hurt. I’m the girl who wears her heart on her sleeve, but just because I always jump in head first when it comes to love doesn’t mean it doesn’t scare me. In fact, it scares me more because I go into every new relationship thinking that this could be The One. I’ve had my heart broken more times than most people because I’m so sensitive when it comes to love.
- I don’t play hard to get. I couldn’t play hard to get if my life depended on it. Unfortunately, some guys love the chase, so some relationships depend on it! I’m just not that type of girl. I refuse to play games when it comes to dating. If I’m into someone, they’ll know it!
- Reason is put on the backburner. Just because I fall in love easily doesn’t mean I don’t know that there are dangers in falling in love too early with the wrong person. It’s just that I’m slow to learn from my mistakes from previous relationships. I keep hoping and thinking and praying that this time it will be different but it rarely if ever is.
- I put too much emphasis on love. The ultimate truth is that I put too much importance on love and relationships. For a romantic like me, love is everything. I don’t think that’s ever going to change. Unfortunately, that means I’m always going to be the girl that falls in love too easily!
