The best dating advice I ever received was from a woman I watched giving a speech on self-empowerment years ago. She said that women had to take charge of their lives and get what they want by pretending they already have it. If they’re looking for a relationship, they should become women who already have them by acting accordingly: self-assured, happy, and comfortable in their own skin. Ever since then, I stopped focusing on finding a guy and instead focused on being a great woman — and you should too. So, what makes a great woman?
- She’s confident. Confidence is the sexiest thing you can wear. A confident woman can attract anything she wants: the right job, the right man, even the right life. It’s not about how you look, but how you feel. Feel sexy and you are sexy. Feel successful and you are successful. Believe that your life is abundant with great men, and it will be. Don’t believe me? Try it out for yourself.
- She focuses on bettering herself. Everyone carries baggage with them, but why not make the load a little lighter? Get real with yourself about your issues. Whether they’re self-esteem-related, money-related, or love related, it’s important to know what they are and face them head-on. Once you do, you’ll feel like you can take on anything.
- She sets goals and sticks to them. It’s important to have goals in every aspect of life, but it’s even more important to follow through. Having dreams makes you a better person. You become more disciplined and hard-working, and your life just gets better all around. At the beginning of each month, make a list of all the things you wish to accomplish, then map out how to make it happen. I guarantee it’ll make you much happier than wasting your day away on Netflix!
- She does what makes her happy. Whatever it is that puts a big, goofy grin on your face is what you should be doing right now. It’s basically what you should be doing all day, every day. It doesn’t matter what it is (it could be painting clowns, for all I care), all that matters is that it makes you happy, and being happy will make you a better woman.
- She travels the world (alone). Traveling alone teaches you plenty of things about yourself. It gives you life lessons that you can’t find anywhere else. You’ll gain the confidence to take on the world (literally), as well as have new knowledge and perspectives when you return. You’ll look at life differently, you’ll look at relationships differently, and you’ll just be an all-around more badass woman.
- She builds herself an empire. Focusing on your career is a proven self-esteem booster. Build yourself a brand. Start a business. Do what you do best. It can be scary to jump into something so big and daunting, and at times, it’ll feel like you’re putting all your eggs in one basket. There’s no guarantee that it will work out, but great women have no choice but to try.
- She gets over her BS insecurities. There’s nothing more freeing than letting go of all the things you’re insecure about. You’ll have so much more free time when you stop worrying about what people are thinking (newsflash: they probably aren’t thinking about you at all). Be brave, be bold, and go for it.
- She takes care of her girls. A great woman always needs her girls. It’s important to have friends that will love and support you through thick and thin. So instead of worrying about the relationship you don’t have, nurture the ones you do have. When you start focusing on all the good things life has to offer, more good things come to you.
- She knows what she deserves. Never forget that you deserve the absolute best. A great woman never settles on an average guy. In fact, she refuses to settle until she finds a King to her Queen: someone just as hardworking, loving, kind, and amazing as her. Only get into a relationship when you know you have a person that can encourage, support, and love you to the fullest extent.
- She doesn’t wait around. You may want to skydive, travel the world, or even buy a house, but you’re hesitant because you haven’t found the right person to share all those things with. It’s easy to put off your dreams until you find your soulmate, but great women live their lives regardless of who’s at their side.
