Just because you love someone doesn’t mean they’re good for you. There are all sorts of scenarios that signal you’re with the wrong person. It can be hard to admit, but here are 10 of them.
- Your friends don’t like them. Your friends don’t determine whether or not you stay with this person, but their opinions do matter. It’s a blinking red flag if multiple friends of yours express their distaste for your partner. Maybe they can see something that you can’t see. I’m not saying you should let others live your life for you, but I am saying you should consider how your friends feel. They may be saving you from future heartache.
- You feel like you have to hide parts of yourself. When you hang out with your friends, you feel like you can bring your whole self, even those parts of you that are a little silly or questionable. With your partner, though, you feel like you can’t bring all of yourself. You sort of act like a different person when you’re with them, someone who isn’t fully you. This is a bad sign.
- You fear judgment. You hide parts of yourself because you fear judgment from your partner. You worry that they’ll have something to say about certain things. Maybe they make comments that make you feel bad about yourself. It’s really not good to live in fear around your partner. They should be someone you can fully be yourself around, not someone you feel you need to hide from.
- Hanging out feels more like an obligation. It used to be that you two would be psyched to hang out with each other, but you lost that somewhere along the way. Now it feels like you’re doing something that you just have to do, like doing your laundry. This isn’t good. Your relationship should feel like something you’re excited about, like it’s a treat to see the other person. Since it’s not that way, it could signal incompatibility or a failing relationship.
- The sex isn’t good. The sex could be off for a variety of reasons, but you have a problem if it’s been consistently unpleasant. Maybe it’s always awkward, there isn’t a spark, or you two aren’t compatible. Whatever the case may be, this is a pretty big signal that you two aren’t right for each other. Sex should be enjoyable for all parties involved. It doesn’t have to be perfect, but it needs to be pleasant.
- Being with them tires you out rather than energizes you. It used to be that you’d get all excited being around them. You’d feel like you were uplifted when you were around your partner. At some point, though, this stopped being the case. For whatever reason, you now feel drained when you spend time with them. It feels as if all of your energy is sapped from you and you’re put in a bad mood. This is definitely a sign the relationship shouldn’t be happening anymore.
- You’ve stopped caring. Especially when you two fight, you just don’t give a crap anymore. You find yourself rolling your eyes a lot, making your partner very angry. When they text it isn’t something that excites you any longer. You could just shrug your shoulders. Apathy towards a partner and a relationship is definitely a very bad sign that things have fallen apart. It’s time to let them be.
- Your thoughts of the future don’t include them. You dream about what your life is going to look like in five years and your partner isn’t anywhere in the plan. You think they’re important to you, but this daydreaming is evidence to the contrary. You’d never tell them that they aren’t part of your plan even though it’s signaling how much it’s time for you two to part ways. Go ahead and start creating that future now.
- You feel relief when they cancel plans. Okay, once in awhile it’s totally fine to feel relief when someone cancels plans. You’re only human (and probably a busy one). Though if you’re constantly feeling this way when your partner cancels plans, there’s something wrong. What’s normal is to want to spend time with your partner, not spend time avoiding them. Perhaps they’re avoiding you. Either way, you’ve got to GTFO.
- You just know it in your gut. The easiest way to know whether or not someone is a good fit is by listening to your intuition. It lives deep inside your gut and speaks to you through sensations, emotions, and thoughts. It’ll knot up if something isn’t right. You can know that you’re with the wrong person if you have a little voice in the back of your head telling you that this isn’t your person. Intuition doesn’t lie, it’s just a matter of getting in touch with it.
