If You Really Want To Meet Someone, Get Off Tinder

Meeting people online is the norm these days, but not all dating apps are the same. If you’re looking for a hit it and quit it, late night, keep it casual type of “relationship” then Tinder is probably a great option for you. However, if you’d really like a real relationship, you should probably try your luck elsewhere.

1. There are better dating apps out there. There’s nothing wrong with online dating. However, if you’re really interested in starting a relationship with someone, Tinder is not the best option. Try an app like Bumble or something even more serious like Match. These sites aren’t meant for just finding someone casual to hook up with but actually finding someone who’s the right fit for you long-term.
2. It’s superficial and shallow. Tinder is based completely on how someone looks. I understand that most relationships start based on physical attraction anyway, but with Tinder, that’s the only thing it’s based on. It doesn’t matter what your educational background is, what your religious beliefs are, or where you work. Truly all that matters is how attractive—and sometimes how easy—you look in your profile pictures.
3. It’s creepy. I don’t care what anyone ways—Tinder is straight up creepy. Both men and women on there are just going through looking at random people deciding if they’re attractive enough to sleep with. People go on there fishing for threesomes. For the five minutes that I was on Tinder, I felt dirty and disrespected—not at all what I was looking for and definitely not a good way to actually meet a partner.
4. It’s designed for hookups, not relationships. If you’re looking for a one-night stand, a FOB, or a late night booty call, Tinder is exactly what you need. A lot of people are into hookup culture and they see this app as the perfect gateway for making things happen. It’s quick, it’s simple, and there are no strings attached. If you’re cool with that, go for it. If you’re not, don’t pretend to be in the hope of becoming the exception to the rule because you’ll only end up disappointed in the end.
5. If you see someone Tinder over the age of 35, SWIPE LEFT. There’s no reason why a grown man or woman over the age of 35 should be on a hookup app. Not only is it super creepy but it says a lot about that person too. Why aren’t they in a relationship already? Why are they prowling on young adults and college kids? Just don’t even go there.
6. You’ll never actually meet half the people you match with. I personally don’t see the point in a completely online relationship. If you don’t plan on meeting up with someone after texting for a few weeks, it’s not and will never be a relationship.
7. A lot of people use it as an ego boost. I’ve actually had multiple friends tell me that the only reason they go on Tinder is to get their confidence up by guys telling them how hot they are or telling them how much they want to sleep with them. They’re in no way trying to get into a relationship or trying to actually get to know these guys.
8. People are fake. People can edit their photos. They can lie about what they do for a living. They can even pretend to be someone else completely and you can end up in a catfish situation. You never really know who you’ve matched with and who you’re chatting with.
9. It’s the perfect opportunity to put yourself in a bad situation. We’ve all heard the horror stories about Tinder dates gone bad. Either you end up meeting up with a total creep or with someone who’s way too pushy and has certain expectations. Meeting up with a total stranger, even if you’ve texted and exchanged pictures, can put you in a dangerous situation.
10. You should get out and be social instead. This doesn’t mean social media, but actually social, as in face to face with other people. Join a gym, take a cooking class, pottery class, play on a kickball team—whatever! Just get out there and meet people the old fashioned way. Even if you don’t find a partner, you’ll still be able to make new friends and have new experiences.
11. Tinder doesn’t work out very often. There are couples out there who’ve met on Tinder and made it work long term, and they may even have a great relationship. It’s promising to know that some Tinder couples have actually worked out. That being said, don’t get your hopes up too much because the chance of a Tinder hookup turning into a relationship is slim to none. Most people are on Tinder for one thing: a one-night stand.
12. You’ll end up dating someone who’s seeing other people at the same time. Matching with someone on Tinder—or even taking it a step further and texting, meeting up and spending time together—doesn’t guarantee exclusivity. If you meet someone on Tinder, chances are they’re still talking to multiple other people at the same time. Having to compete with other women for one guy is no way to start a relationship.