You’re a nice girl. You treat men the right way. So why do they keep treating you like crap? You should be getting what you give, but that’s not always the case in a world full of players. To help you cope, here’s an open letter to women who keep getting screwed over:
- You’re not the problem. It’s easy to blame yourself, but you can’t let your bad luck in love impact your self-esteem. You didn’t do anything wrong, except go after the wrong guy. You’re just as beautiful and intelligent as you were before he screwed you over, so don’t start doubting yourself.
- It happens to everyone. You can’t escape heartbreak, so don’t even try. Everyone gets screwed over. Even the guy who screwed you over will get screwed over eventually.
- Not all men will play the same games. Don’t expect every man you meet to screw you over. If you assume they’re all the same, then you’re going to set yourself up for failure. Remember that some men will be the complete opposite of your douchebag exes.
- It’ll be worth it in the end. When you finally find the right guy for you, you won’t mind the fact that you had to sift through dozens of douchebags. They all led you on your path to Mr. Right, which means they weren’t good for nothings after all.
- Put the cycle to an end. You’re in control of your own love life. You can’t keep dating scumbags, just because they’re nice to you. Keep your eyes open for red flags and run once you spot them, because you deserve better.
- It’s never the end. Whenever one man screws you over, there’s always going to be another guy waiting to make his move. You’re not destined to be single, so don’t wallow in your heartache.
- Stop playing nice. It’s okay to be a bitch. If a man treats you like crap, don’t give him a second or a third chance. Tell him off, because you can’t let him walk all over you and expect respect.
- Don’t do the “right” thing. Instead of following dating rules and doing the thing you think you’re supposed to do, do what you genuinely think is right. Follow your heart. Sometimes, it knows better than your brain.
- Don’t be afraid to love again. When you find the right man, everything will be different. You won’t have to worry about putting your heart on the line anymore. He’ll treat it with the delicacy it deserves.
- Make your feelings for him clear. If you want a man to be your boyfriend, let him know from the start. Don’t skate around the topic. Make it clear that you want something serious, so that he’ll bail if he’s only interested in sex.
- It’s OK to take a break from dating. Just don’t give up entirely. You don’t want to let a few bad apples spoil the whole bunch. There are still some pretty amazing men out there who would love to date a woman like you.
