Some women are scared of giving BJs or don’t know quite what to do to really blow their partner’s mind (yes, pun totally intended). I’ve learned over the years how to give a stellar BJ. It’s not too complicated, just some simple tips show how to really step up your BJ game. Your boyfriend will thank us both later.
- I use lots of spit. This is one of the most crucial things. Too little spit and I risk hurting them by using my hands. There can almost never be too much (OK, maybe there can, but you get what I’m saying). This keeps things feeling nice and smooth for them.
- I use both my hand and mouth. This should be an obvious one but unfortunately it isn’t for everyone. An important part of giving a solid BJ is also to use the hands. I generally just use one hand and if it gets tired, I switch it up and use the other one, making sure there’s enough spit, of course. Sometimes I just use my mouth, sometimes I use my hands, and other times I use both at the same time.
- I switch up my tactics. It’d be boring as all hell if I were just only going up and down with my mouth and doing nothing else. Instead, I vary it up between my mouth and hands. Sometimes I press my tongue against his shaft while it’s in my mouth to vary things up or I’ll change up the speed of my hands. Switching things up keeps him excited. If he’s close to climax or enjoying one particular thing, I’ll obviously keep doing it, but otherwise, I’m all about keeping him on his toes.
- I use my mouth like a vacuum. This is a little trick—I’m not sure why it works or what the science is behind it, but I know that it drives men crazy in the best possible way. When my mouth is on them, I suck in as if I was sucking on a straw. I move up and down while doing this. It may feel a little weird at first, but I promise it’s a crowd pleaser.
- I keep using my hands when my mouth gets tired. It’s OK to take breaks. I can only have a penis in my mouth for so long before I get tired. The important thing is that I keep the process moving by using my hands (with lots of spit!). I have no problem stopping completely if I need to, but I find that I can rest just fine when I’m using my hands while my mouth takes a break.
- I have a firm grip. There’s an important balance here between not too loose and not too tight. It’s unlikely that it’s going to be too tight, so it’s OK to really squeeze. I do this and keep a firm grip throughout the whole time. If it’s too loose, they aren’t going to get off.
- I ask them what they like. Sure, I have ideas on what’s going to make them feel good, but they know themselves better than I do. So, I ask them what they like and have them show me. Some guys will say things like “just keep doing what you’re doing,” but some will show me different things. I always want to be catering to the individual even though my tactics generally work across a variety of people.
- I communicate while it’s happening. “How does that feel?” or “What do you like?” are good questions to ask the dude. Obviously we’re not going to be having a conversation or even saying much at all, but it’s good to check in and see how they’re doing.
- I let them assist if they want to. First of all, I’m not at all OK with the man who tries to start jamming my head down without asking. That’s a no-go. What I am down for is if they want to put their hand on their shaft while I use my mouth. I’m also even down with them assisting with the speed as long as we’ve communicated about it and I’ve given my consent.
- I get in position for endurance. Before I even start, I get ready to be down there a while. I put my hair up tightly and I make sure my legs have plenty of space. I adjust as needed, but I set myself up so that I can likely be in this one position for a while, maybe even as long as it takes for him to come.
- I do some ball play. Whether or not ball playing is appealing, of course, is up to the individual guy. Many men love their balls played with, but some aren’t a fan. This is where simple communication comes in. I simply ask, usually during the BJ, if they like their balls touched. If they say yes then I go for it. The extra play really makes a difference and turns some guys on a ton.
