I didn’t know the meaning of the word metrosexual until I was a sophomore in high school. My boyfriend and I were hanging out by his locker in between periods when some guy walked up to us to point out how weird it was that my boyfriend had a little mirror in his locker. He was so embarrassed that he threw the mirror in the trash. After school I told my mom what happened and she smiled at me and said, “honey, you’ve always been into the metro boys.” She was absolutely right, and it continues to be true to this day.
- I’ve never been attracted to beef cakes. I don’t mean to lump all muscly men into one category, but I never had any luck dating the football types. Large, hyper-masculine men have always put me off in a way that’s hard to explain. They all seemed so dopey and head strong and having a deep conversation with them was like pulling teeth. The lean, nerdy, semi-feminine types were always much more my speed.
- I don’t give a crap about sports and cars. Sometimes I think men pretend to like certain things because that’s “just what men do.” I have respect for people that are truly passionate about things like collecting antique vehicles, but I don’t want to date them. I go cross eyed with boredom during football games and I laugh at guys that rev their engines for attention. Physical feats of strength and objects don’t make a man in my eyes.
- I’m not impressed with big egos. There’s a big difference between self-confidence and overly inflated egos. Men that have more feminine traits tend to keep their testosterone in check, while overly masculine men can’t seem to stop high-fiving themselves every time they accomplish something mediocre.
- Metro men are open about self-image issues. I’ll never forget how ashamed my high school boyfriend was the day that big douche bag called him out for having a mirror in his locker. It took him time, but my boyfriend eventually realized he wasn’t the one with the problem. He had awesome, long hair that he liked to keep in place. He took pride in his appearance. The guy that felt the need to call my boyfriend out didn’t realize it, but he revealed his own insecurities that day. A few weeks went by and I snuck a new mirror into my boyfriend’s locker after school.
- I like a guy who’s comfortable with himself. Adult men with feminine qualities are my favorite simply because they are unashamedly themselves. They’re self-aware, hilariously self-depricating, and don’t take themselves too seriously.
- Self-care is a priority. Men with feminine qualities recognize that the need for self-care is not a sign of weakness. Addressing mental health is something every man and woman should see as a necessity, but our society still views this important task as a lack of strength and discipline – especially for men.
- I don’t need a dominant man, I need a partner. Some men and women prefer to take on more traditional, antiquated rolls in their relationships. I’d rather my guy see me as equal partner rather than someone that’s meant to play a subservient roll.
- Feminine men date differently. Jealousy and over-protectiveness isn’t cute. Overtly-masculine men tend to view women as property they need to protect at all costs. I prefer to date men that recognize I can hold my own, but will stand by my side when the situation warrants it.
- The sex is way sexier. Men with feminine traits aren’t less appreciative of the womanly form, on the contrary. The men I date take the time to make sure my needs are always met. Another bonus? My private life is kept private. Feminine men don’t feel the need to brag about their sex lives for the sake of man points.
- I love a man that isn’t afraid of emotions. Manly men have been taught to push their emotions down deep. After all “real men” don’t cry, right? I think that kind of messaging to men is harmful and absurd. Men with feminine qualities tend to be more in touch with their emotions and they’re not afraid to express their needs. Dating men that believe in open communication is so much easier than dating a hot head that won’t tell me what he’s thinking!
