Making the first move is tricky, and even though there’s no reason we houldn’t come right out and tell the guys we like that we like them, it can still be pretty awkward. The good news is, there are ways to let a dude know you’re interested without being a total weirdo about it.
- Get in his personal space. A great way to let him know you have the feels for him is to get in his personal bubble. There are some really effective yet simple ways to get your point across without getting too physical and over the top like briefly touching his back when you pass him, sitting next to him when you get the chance, and touching his arm when he hands you something. You’ll be putting the idea of romance in his head without him even realizing it.
- Avoid talking to him about your guy problems. For the love of God, do NOT offload about your latest fling to him. It’s not going to make him jealous, it’s going to put you in the friend zone indefinitely. Just think about how you’d feel if your crush started asking your advice on a girl he wants to ask out. You’d feel totally awkward about it and probably write him off as forever platonic.
- Don’t let him tell you about his girl problems. If he starts telling you about his girl troubles, cut him off. By making it clear that you feel uncomfortable talking about these things with him, it will put it in his mind that you might have feelings for him. Either change the subject or ask him why he’s consulting you on the issue. If you treat it as strange that he’s talking about relationships with you, he’ll get the message right away that it might be because you’re interested in him. If not, he’s thick-skulled.
- Be a little bit mysterious. Don’t tell him your entire life story in one sitting and don’t tell him where you’re going and what you’re up to every second of the day. If he asks you what you did last night, keep it vague. This will get his wheels turning and make him start wondering what you’re all about.
- Make eye contact but not in a creepy way. Eye contact is super effective for letting someone know you like them, but it’s kind of a delicate art. You want to look at him like you’re looking at a puppy, but try not to get too creepy about it. Even though you’re considering kidnapping him, he shouldn’t be able to tell that by your creepily intense gaze. We’re going for kind eyes here.
- Look your best when you see him. Honestly, looking good is half the battle when it comes to attracting your dream guy. If you know you’re going to be hanging out with him, put in a little extra effort. He WILL take notice, especially if you two have been flirting off and on leading up to the meetup. Note that “hot” doesn’t have to mean looking like a supermodel—just wear what makes you feel comfortable but confident and you’re bound to shien.
- Talk to him about his goals and personal interests. Act like the supportive girlfriend you know he’ll eventually want that. By being interested in his dreams, goals, and hobbies, he’ll start getting excited about the prospect of dating you. Guys love it when a girl they’re interested in approves of their lifestyle, so make it clear that you’re feeling it.
- Don’t be afraid to compliment him. Guys don’t get compliments very often, so when they do, it really sticks out in their minds. Make it sincere and specific. You could tell him that the color of his shirt accentuates his eyes or his haircut looks really nice. To him, that’s approval and it feels good coming from the opposite sex. He’ll keep coming back to you for more, just watch.
- Whatever you do, don’t get weird about it. I know it can get overwhelming to put yourself out there but try to be OK with whatever happens. All you can do is be the best you that you can be. If that isn’t good enough for him then he isn’t good enough for you. Keep a level head about the whole situation because after all’s said and done, he’s just a guy. There are a million more out there for you to pursue.
- Believe you deserve his love. The very best way to capture your crush’s heart is to capture your own. When you have that deep knowledge that you’re desirable, he WILL desire you if he’s smart. Try to speak positively about yourself. Even if you don’t believe you deserve him, by telling yourself you’re good enough, you’ll eventually start thinking differently. Confidence can be infectious and when you’ve got that unwavering swagger, he’ll feel it and definitely start seeing you as a serious contender.
