I was really enjoying having a casual conversation with you, but things got awkward when you started hitting on me. You seemed really sweet and I was totally flattered but unfortunately not interested. Is there any way to say that nicely? It doesn’t seem like it, since the moment I let you down gently, I was immediately branded a bitch. Uh, WTF?
- I was trying to be nice. I could have faked interest to appease your ego, but that sounds a little cruel to me. Rejecting you was actually nicer than the alternative. I could have just put pretended I was interested in you, given you a fake number and made you feel dumb later on, but that’s not who I am. The best response here would have been to just say it’s cool and maybe even kept on chatting. Maybe we weren’t meant for romance, but we could have at least been friends.
- I wish you’d give me the same respect I’m giving you. I told you straight up that I wasn’t interested in you romantically not because I’m a bitch, but because I didn’t want to lead you on in any way or make you think there was a chance things would change if you stuck around. I respect people enough to be upfront and honest with them even if it’s tough to do, so I wish you’d be respectful enough in return to accept that gracefully.
- I don’t really owe you anything. I wasn’t put here on this earth to please your sex drive or even your ego. I don’t owe you sex or even another second of my time. The fact that you’ve now labeled me a bitch just because I rejected you says a lot more about you than it does about me. Grow up. I’m not a bitch at all. If I was, why were you interested in the first place?
- Sometimes love is unrequited, and attraction is too. I’m flattered you find me attractive but for whatever reason, I don’t feel the same about you. Sometimes attraction doesn’t go both ways — that’s life. You felt something but I didn’t, end of story. Rejection is a part of dating, and you need to accept that. I’ve been on the other side of things plenty of times myself and while it sucks, I got over it.
- I’m sure you’ve rejected a few women in your life. Does that automatically make you a bad guy? No, of course not, so what’s the difference? We all have a right to feel however we do (or don’t) about another person and to turn down those that the connection just isn’t there with, which is what I did with us. Again, I know it’s not fun being the one being rejected, but sometimes that’s just how it goes.
- Stop taking it so personally. I know it’s a personal thing, but getting rejected isn’t the same as me breaking your heart. It sucks, but you can’t force chemistry. Your self-confidence shouldn’t depend on me or any other girl. You have to have confidence in yourself regardless of what anyone else thinks. No matter what, you shouldn’t take your low self-esteem out on a random girl who rejects you at the bar. That’s anything but fair.
- I really didn’t want to waste your time. Even if I pretended now that I was into you (or tried to convince myself that I might be down the line), eventually things would come to an end and it would likely be far more painful than this was. If I don’t feel a spark then we’re just wasting each other’s time here. Instead, I saved you some time, and now you have the opportunity to find another girl who is interested in you. Don’t waste it.
- There are plenty of fish in the sea. If I’m not interested, just move on to the next girl. Not every girl is going to think you’re her catch. Not every girl is going to be interested in you, just like you’re not interested every girl you meet. There are over 7 billion people in this world and the odds that at least one of them will like you are pretty high. I’m not it, but the next girl just might be.
