My BFF and my best guy friend recently started dating, and while you might think that sounds like a good thing, for me, it’s hell on earth. Now I’m always the third wheel and I’m totally fed up with it. I just don’t know if I can take being the odd girl out anymore…
- I miss when my friends weren’t dating. I miss us all being single. It was so much more fun back then. I’d have my night with the girls and my night with the guys and there was no drama. It was just about having a good time. Now they only want to do couple things and they’re a total drag at the bar. People just act differently when they’re in relationships and while normally that’s not a bad thing, in this case, it just sucks for me.
- They act like I’m the third person in the relationship. They bring me into all of their drama. They want my opinion on every fight or disagreement as if I’m the deciding factor. It’s like I’m in a relationship with only the worst parts of the deal — all fights and no good times. They’re my best friends, but I just want them to ACT like they are again. I don’t want to be a part of their messed up situation.
- I hate how they act all lovey dovey around me. I’m a firm believer that you can be all cutesy one-on-one, but when you’re with other people, that’s a no-go. Not only is it annoying AF, but I don’t want to have to see that side of one of my guy friends. Whether they’re acting like this in public or at one of our places it just makes me want to leave. Like, damn — get a room.
- I miss our one-on-one time. I was friends with each of them individually before they started dating, which means I hung out with each of them one-on-one. I had my girl time where we talked about girl stuff. Then I had my guy time where we played video games and constantly made fun of each other. I miss that separation. Now I only get to hang out with them together and it’s just not the same.
- I can’t stand how they act differently now that they’re together. They’re just not themselves anymore. They act differently when they’re together vs. when they’re apart. He was a guy who made fun of people who acted like love sick puppies. In fact, he’d be totally disgusted by the guy he is now. He was never the relationship type. She was a girl who made dumb jokes and was obsessed with Nicholas Sparks’ love stories. Now they’re both trying to impress each other and act cool, but frankly, they’re acting like idiots.
- I know they’re not meant to be. The hardest part of this all is that I know every detail of their relationship and I can tell they’re not right for each other. They fight all the time, play mind games, lie, and try to manipulate each other. I hate the way they treat each other and I think they both deserve better. I don’t want to support their crazy relationship, but I don’t really have a choice. I just have to wait for them to see it’s a mistake all on their own but even once they do, then what?
- I can tell they feel sorry for me. I don’t want their pity. I’m happily single right now. I need to be single right now and figure out my own crap, but I can tell they don’t realize that. In fact, I think they think I’m jealous of what they have. I don’t want their unhealthy relationship — the only thing I’m envious of is the way things used to be.
- I feel invisible sometimes. They carry on like I’m not even there. They have private conversations right in front of me. Someone, please tell me how that’s not rude AF. They beg me to go out and then I spend half the night on my phone looking at social media or texting other people. Most of the time, I end up leaving the night thinking that they somehow invited me on a date with them. It’s like they’ve lost all sense of friend time.
- I’m starting to not want to spend time with them. I’m already an introvert. I need my alone time, but I’m starting to want it more than ever. Whenever I hang out with them, I don’t have a good time. I keep giving them chances to stop making me the third wheel but they just keep blowing it. At the end of the night, I regret hanging out and I wish I would have just listened to my senses and spent the night in.
- I wish they could understand how I feel. Sometimes I wonder if they constantly want to hang out with me because their relationship wouldn’t survive without me. I’m the thing they have in common. I’m always the middle woman but I don’t want to be. I want to be able to hang out with them each individually like we used to. I want them to act differently around me when they do when they’re in private. I’m sick of being the third wheel, but no matter how many times I bring it up, nothing ever changes. I just can’t take it anymore.
