Why I’ll Never Forgive A Cheater

Why I’ll Never Forgive A Cheater ©iStock/captblack76

Once a cheater, always a cheater, right? Honestly, I couldn’t care less whether or not that’s actually true. For me, it doesn’t matter if it’s a pattern of deceit — a one-time betrayal doesn’t make the pain hurt any less, so no matter how many times it happened, how sorry you are or how much you wish you could take it back, I won’t forgive a cheater.

  1. I’ll never be with a guy who doesn’t respect me. What you did was disrespectful to me and to our relationship, and why would I ever want to be with a guy who doesn’t even respect me? You can’t love someone you don’t respect and you can’t respect someone you don’t love. It’s that simple.
  2. Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. I’ll never give a guy the chance to fool me twice because he should have used his first chance a little more wisely. Men aren’t Neanderthals. You knew the difference between right and wrong and you hopped in her bed anyway. It was a betrayal, and once was enough for me.
  3. I want a guy who leads with his heart, not his penis. The head on your shoulders should be stronger than the head on your penis. You can say you “just didn’t think” but that’s a BS excuse. You knew what you were doing, and what you were doing was betraying me. I need a guy who always puts love first, or at least ahead of his sexual “urges.”
  4. A cheater doesn’t deserve a second chance. Mistakes can be forgiven, but cheating is not a mistake — it’s a choice. A conscious choice you made to put your penis ahead of our relationship. These things don’t just happen. You could have walked away. You could have come home to me, but you didn’t. You made your choice and there’s no going back. At least you won’t be going back to me.
  5. You’re too selfish to love me. It’s good that you care about your needs, but you should care about mine too. What I need is to be with a guy who would never even consider cheating on me. I want a guy who cares about my happiness, a guy who would never risk what we have for one moment of pleasure. I want a guy who thinks about his actions and the consequences I’ll have too. I want a partner, and you’re anything but.
  6. Would you forgive me? Honestly? If I screwed another guy while we were still together, would you, could you forgive me? There isn’t a difference between a man cheating and a woman cheating. You can’t claim that it’s “just in your nature.” That’s a weak ass excuse, and if that’s the story you’re telling then go cry your rivers to someone who gives a damn. I’ll give you a hint: that’s not me.
  7. You deserve to be alone. You’ve made your bed and now you have to lie in it — alone. Well, maybe not alone, but at least not with me. Feel free to occupy that space with any other woman you please. You can fill your bed, but you won’t be able to fill the void I left in your heart, and that brings me peace.
  8. I deserve better. I don’t deserve to be cheated on; no woman does. You don’t deserve to have me back. There was a positive that came out of all this betrayal and that’s the fact that I now know the real you. This is the person you are, these are your true colors, and the person I am deserves a guy so much better than you.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.
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