Guys really aren’t all that hard to figure out. When it comes to whether or not they’re into you, it’s pretty clear even from the get-go. It’s not some mystery you need to unravel or a puzzle you need to solve. You shouldn’t have to look for clues or translate his body language. In other words, if a guy likes you, it will be obvious — just pay attention.
- He’ll act like it. When a guy is into you, even if he’s shy, he’s going to give you subtle signs he’s feeling you. He’ll text you for no reason or try to be at least some small part of your life, even if it just means liking all of your social media posts. In other words, he’ll be proactive in some way in expressing his interest, even if subtly.
- He’ll straight up tell you. Guys usually go for what they want. That means if he has his sights set on you, you’ll know it because he’ll be asking you to get drinks or telling you that he’s into you, leaving the ball in your court. That doesn’t mean you can’t make the first move, of course. But if you’re making all the moves, you’re forcing things.
- He won’t play games. A game-playing guy isn’t one that wants to be your boyfriend. It’s a harsh truth, but if he’s screwing around and playing you hot and cold, it’s likely because he doesn’t know how he feels about you yet so isn’t sure whether it’s worth dedicating actual time and energy to you. Don’t bother.
- You can feel it. You have your intuition, but you don’t tap into it as often as you should because oftentimes, it’s easier not to (especially if it’s telling you something you don’t want to hear). Whether or not you want to admit it, you know deep down whether or not there’s potential there. It’s better to be honest with yourself now rather than dragging out an inevitable breakup (or ghosting).
- He’ll put in the effort. Even if you just met a guy and have only hung around him a few times, he’ll be putting in some sort of effort to win you over. Whether he’s talking to you across your table of friends or asking if you need a drink refill, if he’s into you, he’s putting in at least the minimal amount of work to be able to interact with you more.
- He’ll get in touch with you. If he wants to talk to you, he’ll text you, call you, Facebook message you, or something. If he’s not calling you, it’s not because he’s lost your number or is too busy to find five extra seconds in his day. It’s because he just doesn’t want to. You know what they say — where there’s a will, there’s a way.
- He won’t send mixed signals. If a guy is completely incapable of being consistent, then he just doesn’t like you as much as he’s telling you he does. When a guy is into you, and I mean really into you, he’s going to put his all into taking it to the next level and you won’t ever have to “figure him out.”
- He won’t risk losing you. A guy who likes you will do all he can to make sure that you stay just as interested in him as he is in you. If he’s making himself less available or is pulling away from you, then he’s trying to slow your interest in him to keep things from escalating.
- He won’t lead you on. If he’s truly interested in having some sort of relationship with you and he’s serious about it, he’ll be honest about his intentions. He does this because likes you and doesn’t want to f**k things up by acting otherwise. He wants you to know where you stand and it’s a total relief.
