Being comfortable with the single life is great, because whether you’re purposely not looking for a relationship or you’d love to be in one when it comes along, it’s important to be happy in the interim. However, there’s a fine line between loving your life as-is to getting so comfortable that there’s no longer room for a guy even if Prince Charming happened to knocked on your door. There’s a big difference between being happy with your single status and being stuck — here’s how to tell which is which:
- Comfortable means being content; being stuck means you’re afraid of change. Fear is a pretty good hint that you’re not actually comfortable. It isn’t necessarily a bad thing because it often actually helps to reveal what you value and what you want, but the key is to figure out how to work through it or act despite it, and that’s when it transforms into something else. If you’re afraid of love, you’re not comfortable without it, you just haven’t quite reached the point of acceptance.
- Being comfortable means living your life to the fullest; being stuck means you’re making yourself needlessly busy. You can claim to be too busy for a relationship all you want, but if you know that you’re actually a bit of of workaholic because you try to avoid feeling lonely, then you might be a little stuck. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy and it works quite well. On the other hand, doing things that feed your spirit and actually make you happy as opposed to just busy are the things that make you content in life.
- You’re comfortable if you just haven’t met the right person yet; you’re stuck if you think no one’s good enough. If you decide that all guys are the same, that every good one is taken, and that every relationship leads to heartbreak, then maybe the problem is you. If it’s so hard to find the right guy, then why would you need to have any walls up, anyway? Think about it. Being comfortable being single, on the other hand, means that you can go on a failure of a date and laugh it off instead of assuming it’s validation that you’re meant to be alone. After all, you’ll know the right one will come along eventually.
- Being comfortable means knowing that relationships can enrich your life; being stuck means you constantly assume that love is too hard. You don’t have to be in a relationship to know that they can be pretty great when they’re with the right person. Is any relationship perfect? Hell no. Are they hard? Often, yes. But a good relationship will outweigh the stress of the hard stuff with really sweet, supportive, and sexy stuff that makes all the effort more than worth it. It’s like anything else. You can say that you’re comfortable not trying, but if you feel like you’re missing out it might be worth the jump.
