To All The Guys Who Hate Commitment — Here’s What You’re Missing

To All The Guys Who Hate Commitment — Here’s What You’re Missing ©iStock/BraunS

You’re just not ready for a relationship. You want to take things slow. You have to figure out where things are headed before you jump into something serious. Whatever BS excuse you’re making to satisfy your fear of commitment, you’re missing out on so much.

  1. Real love. A girl might fall for you, but if she’s not getting love and respect in return, then her love will never be true, and that’s a damn shame. You think you’re so above romance, as if anyone could be too good for love. Everyone deserves to experience real love in their life, and at this rate you never will.
  2. The morning after. Playboys think of the morning after as the morning to GTFO of my bed already, but in a real relationship, the morning after is all a part of the magic. Waking up next to the person you’ve been dreaming about, cuddling and not wanting to leave your bed, making breakfast for two… After the deed is done and you’ve had your much needed rest, that’s when the real comfort sinks in.
  3. Personal growth. You need a serious ego check, because relationships teach you about life and help you grow into the man you’ve always wanted to be (or should want to be, anyway). Leave your boyhood BS behind and give commitment a try. You’ll find out who you really are when you finally let a woman bring out the best version of yourself.
  4. A feeling of safety. Being committed to a person you really love makes you feel a lot less alone in the world. When you’re with the right person, commitment actually feels good. You have the safety of knowing that no matter what, there’s one person in this world who will always be by your side. It’s a feeling unlike any other, and most people wouldn’t trade it for the world. It’s priceless.
  5. A deep and meaningful connection with another human being. Commitment is a way of opening your soul to another person, and committed relationships are a bond like no other. You get to know your partner’s ins and outs AND you get someone who will know you better than you ever thought possible, better than you know yourself. Maybe you’ve had a lifelong best friend, but as special as that is, it doesn’t compare to the connection made in a truly committed relationship.
  6. An expanded worldview. You might know who you are on your own, but who are you to those around you? It’s great that you can be a whole person on your own rather than just one half in a relationship, but you’re looking at relationships the wrong way. Commitment lets you further your true self, how you love, how you care, how other people see you and perhaps most importantly, how you see the world. It’s one of life’s greatest lessons.
  7. Sex that’s more than just lust. Making love might sound cheesy to you, but it’s a lot sexier than you’d imagine. Finally you have a partner that cares just as much about your satisfaction as they do about their own. Every touch, every kiss, every move is heightened because you’re not just having a physical connection, but an emotional one too.
  8. A partner in crime. If you’re not committed, then you’ll never be able to think of her as a permanent part of your life. Permanent might sound a little scary, but you’re just thinking of it in the wrong way. You’re thinking ball and chain when you should be imagining happily ever after.
  9. The chance at a future. At least not a future with someone else in it. If you can never commit to one woman, then you’re destined for a future alone. Sounds pretty sad, doesn’t it? Is that really what you want? To grow old alone? Your looks will fade and girls will get over your bad boy reputation, so when that’s all gone, what will you really have?
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.
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