You’ve been saying yes to every date, putting yourself out there and doing everything right when it comes to finding “The One” but you’re coming up empty-handed. You’re sure he’s out there, but where is he? You’re getting tired of trying so hard and getting nothing in return. If you’re sick and tired of waiting to come across Mr. Right, here’s what you need to remember:
- “The One” may not even exist — at least not how you’re imagining him. It’s romantic to think that there’s one perfect person for you, but that’s not really the case. Can you imagine if there was only one person in the entire world that was suited for you? The chances of you finding him would be next to none, and what if he happened to live on the opposite end of the world? The truth is, there are likely dozens of guys you’d work with. You just have to meet one, that’s all.
- No, it doesn’t happen when you’re not looking. This is such a bad relationship myth, and it’s always repeated ad nauseum by people already in relationships who are looking back to their single days feeling full of nostalgia. Ugh. Sitting back and putting your feet up, thinking Prince Charming will show up if you just stop looking for him is ridiculous.
- You’re doing the right thing by putting yourself out there. You aren’t going to find someone sitting at home alone — you have to go out and have fun! Surround yourself with all your best friends and have an amazing night out. After all, you aren’t really making an effort to change your love life if all you’re doing is swiping left and right while on your couch in pajamas (though that helps too).
- There’s other stuff you can (and probably should) be doing in the meantime. If you’re sick of being single and frustrated with all the dead-end guys you’re coming across, the solution is simple: spend your time on other things and with other people you love. Pursuing your passions and surrounding yourself with people and things that uplift you will distract you from your lackluster love life — and strangely enough, it might end up introducing you to some potential guys.
- There’s more to your life than your relationship status. If you’re waiting around expecting your life to transform once you find a boyfriend, please stop. It places way too much pressure on him AND on you. Not only that, but it will suffocate any potential the relationship has to be serious and long-term. The only one who can change your life is you. No one else can do it for you.
- You don’t have to settle for the sake of not being on your own. There’s nothing worse than being with someone simply because you were bored or lonely. You’ll regret it instantly and you’ll soon realize that you’re way better being on your own than you are in a dead-end relationship that doesn’t make you happy or add anything to your already amazing life.
- No, you’re not going to die alone. Ever since Bridget Jones came on the scene, this statement seems to be uttered by single girls everywhere, but just like the character, it’s fiction. You’re not going to die alone surrounded by cats. It just won’t happen (unless, of course, that’s your idea of a great life, in which case, go for it). Even though it’s been years since something real has come along, that doesn’t mean it’s never going to happen. Have some faith. You’ll get there.
- Eventually, there’ll be someone who’ll be worth the wait. Sure, that’s easier to say than it is to believe, but it’s true. One day, you’ll find the guy who makes all the failed relationships and jerk guys just a blip on your radar. Unfortunately, you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your own personal Prince Charming, but he’s out there and you will find him.
- You never know — he could appear tomorrow. Sure, it’s been months or years and you still haven’t found the right guy for you, but you never know when it could all change. Love is funny that way — you can never tell when it’s just around the corner. It’s the element of surprise that makes it so much more magical, so try and wait patiently, as had as it seems.
