If you’re struggling to get the attention of guys you find attractive, don’t worry. There’s an easy way to make men go crazy for you—just follow these easy steps.
- Wear the kind of clothing you like, not just what’s popular or what your friends are wearing. Whatever style of clothing you feel most comfortable and most attractive in, wear that, even if it’s not what’s “in” at the moment. Honestly, most guys won’t notice (or care) whether you’re wearing Converse and skinny jeans or a Lilly Pulitzer dress, but they WILL notice if you feel uncomfortable in a particular outfit.
- Go places and do things that interest you. This sounds obvious, but don’t do things that you hate just because you think it’s a good way to meet guys. If you hate watching games but are continuously hanging out at a sports bar because there are cute guys frequently in there, you’re going to be bored, you’re going to look miserable, and even if you do meet someone, you’ll end up regretting pretending to be someone you’re not.
- Start with a simple question that can’t be answered with yes or no. If you see a guy who you think is cute, you don’t have to think of some elaborate scheme to get him to come over and talk to you. Honestly, if you walk up to a guy and simply say, “Whatcha drinking?” he’ll probably be happily surprised by your confidence and casualness. Plus, asking a simple question is a great way to start a conversation with any guy. It’s easy to answer and you can tell a lot about what kind of person he may be by how many words he uses to describe his beer.
- Drum up every ounce of confidence but stop short of being cocky. Use what you have going for you! Whether it’s your sense of humor, your knowledge of interesting facts, your ability to get along with anyone—it doesn’t matter! Combine it with confidence and you’ll succeed every single time (as long as the guy is available and straight).
- Remember that you don’t have to be born with it either. If confidence is something you’re still working on, that’s OK too. The truth is many people who seem totally confident are still working on it, they’ve just perfected their ability to fake it ’til they make it. So basically, act confident until you start to believe it yourself.
- Be able to laugh at yourself. If you approach a guy and something awkward happens, be willing and able to joke about it. Guys don’t care if you embarrass yourself or do something stupid, but if it bothers you and ruins your attitude, it’ll probably make them uncomfortable and uninterested. In fact, if you embarrass yourself and you’re able to laugh at it, he’ll probably like you more.
- Don’t be afraid to be honest. If you don’t agree with something he says, let him know. You don’t have to be condescending or hurtful about it, just be direct. If he asks you to grab some buffalo wings and you hate spicy food, tell him the truth. Guys love honesty because so often they meet girls who act agreeably to try and make a good impression.
- Have an opinion about things and voice it. I’m not saying you should announce that your favorite band is the best band in the world and every other one sucks, but if he asks you what your favorite restaurant is so he can take you there on a date, don’t just say you like everything (especially if you’re a picky eater). If you guys are talking about your favorite movies, tell him that you love horror movies but don’t really like action if that’s how you feel. Guys appreciate when you are genuinely who you are from the start and it won’t make them like you any less if you don’t like Mexican food.
- If you want something, go get it. Get over the fear of rejection and stop playing games! Don’t try to give a guy hints that you want him to ask for your number. Guys are notoriously bad at reading these signals and if you’re not direct, those subtle hints may come off differently than you mean them to. If you’re interested, let him know and ask if you can text or call him!
- Stop making it more complicated than it has to be. All of these “rules” basically add up to one simple philosophy: be yourself and be unapologetic about it. There’s no one type of girl that guys are most interested in, so don’t try and act like someone you’re not to get a guy’s number. If you’re confident in who you really are (and not some watered down version of yourself you present when you meet new people because you think you’ll be more liked that way), it’ll be obvious and attractive.
