I was tired of having a boring Tinder profile that was basically like everyone else’s so I asked my girls to help. I trusted them to make me look as good as possible and to do it in style and they didn’t disappoint. The results of their efforts were fabulous and I wonder why I didn’t ask them to step in sooner.
- It made me nervous but I trusted them. Of course, I was nervous taking down my trusty profile and putting up something else that was a bit bold and that I hadn’t actually written myself. It was nerve-wracking to be so vulnerable too but I trusted my friends’ judgment and that they only had my best interests in mind. Why not take a leap of faith? I figured it’d be worth it if it would land me with someone worth my time.
- It reminded me of how awesome I am. What they wrote was totally amazing! They painted me in such a good light because they truly believe I’m an awesome person. They gave me a bit of a confidence boost and reminded me of all of the things that are great about me. Sure, I don’t need other people to validate me in order to feel like I’m enough, but it definitely helps!
- They were more honest than I would have been. There were certain things that they put that I definitely wouldn’t have put myself. They wrote that I was “very cute” which seems so silly but was nice to have it on there. They were definitely more honest and vulnerable than I usually am when I’m writing the profiles myself.
- I was reminded that my friends are funny as hell. I like to think I have a solid sense of humor I’m not quite as funny as my friends, and I’m OK with that. The way they put my bio together just makes for a good laugh. They even included “cries a lot” because it’s quite accurate. Who doesn’t want to have a laugh while they’re reading through Tinder? I know I would.
- Letting my friends take over made me stand out instead of feeling like a part of the crowd. Swiping through Tinder can be a snore going through similar bios over and over again. So many women put a lot of the same stuff (guys too), so it’s nice to have a bio that was unique and out of the ordinary. I’ve generally had the same profile for a long time, so it was cool to have something new.
- My friends just want to see me succeed in dating. Ultimately, they just want the best for me. They want me to find a delightful partner that I can settle down with. Any way that they can help with that, they’re happy to do. It’s almost like having a hand in playing matchmaker—they get to help with my search. They even may help me succeed in dating with their kind and funny words.
- I got a good response from nice people. I felt like the profile was a magnet for good people. I got a stellar response from some genuinely wonderful people. I can’t say that the words in my profile were what attracted them, but I’m sure they had something to do with it. Regardless, I had some seriously cute and sweet people ending up in my inbox.
- I think it filtered out people I don’t want. The “cries a lot” bit probably scared away lots of people. If it did I say good riddance, they wouldn’t belong in my life anyway if they couldn’t handle me crying. Honesty is always a good way to filter out what I don’t want because once people get a look at who I really am they’ll choose to leave or stay. I just wave to those who choose to go.
- I ultimately felt good about it. I’d recommend having friends write your profile that you trust and you think would be good at it. Those two pieces are really important. I ended up loving the results of them writing my new profile out. It gave me a good laugh and gave me the warm and tinglies thinking that I’m seen in such a good way. I had confidence in bringing the profile to the dating game, even thinking it may give me a competitive edge for creativity. It hasn’t totally paid off yet but I have faith.
