My really good friends are starting to drop like flies. They’re falling in love and getting married, and I’m just over here trying to realize why my love life has been in shambles for the majority of my adult life. I’m happy that my besties have found love and are settling down with their soulmates, but even though I continue to fumble my way through the dating world, I’m still happy to be single. Here’s why:
- I Like Being in Charge. Being single isn’t always a bad thing, especially for someone like me who craves their independence. I’m in control of every decision I make in my life, and I don’t have to take anyone else’s feelings or concerns into consideration. I still have friends and family members I can reach out to for advice, but at the end of the day, I’m in charge of my own destiny.
- I Can Focus on My Career. Since I don’t have a husband who demands so much of my time and attention, I can put my focus into building and growing my career. I can climb my way up the corporate ladder without feeling like I’m being pulled in two different directions.
- I’m Not Going to Settle. I could’ve been married if I’d accepted a marriage proposal from an ex but I didn’t want to settle. I knew he wasn’t The One, so I decided to walk away. I’m not going to get married just for the sake of keeping up with my friends who are doing the same. I’d much rather wait to settle down with the right guy.
- I’m Still Discovering Who I Am. I can’t possibly dedicate myself to someone else if I’m still trying to discover who I am. What if I get married and then realize afterward that I want to travel the world? I want to have children someday, but what if I get married and suddenly change my mind? It wouldn’t be fair for me to drag someone else into my life of uncertainty.
- I’m Being Selfish, but IDGAF. My life is all about me right now — what I want to do, where I want to eat, and how I want to spend my free time. Being self-centered would definitely cause problems for me if I had a fiancé or a husband; that’s why being single is the best choice for me at this time.
- I Feel Complete On My Own. My friends seem to depend so much on their husbands and fiancés. They crave being near them and spending as much time with them as possible. I definitely understand their desire to be close to someone they love, but I can function quite fine on my own. I don’t need to get married to make me feel whole. I feel complete and satisfied on my own.
- I Don’t Want to Feel Tied Down. If I want to jet off to Cancun this weekend, I can. If I feel like turning off my phone all weekend to relax and have some me time, I can do that, too. I’m not tied down to anyone and I prefer things this way. I’m not in a rush to hand over my freedom to someone else.
- I’m Terrified of Divorce. As much as I want to be in love and settle down, I’m also terrified of divorce. When two people decide to get married, having things come to an end is usually not a thought that crosses their minds. But for me, this is a fear that I struggle with often. I don’t want to fall in love, get married, and get heartbroken if we fall out of love. Divorce is always a possibility, so I want to make sure I’m 100 percent certain about the person I’m with before I agree to walk down the aisle.
- I Still Have Goals to Achieve. There’s still so much I want to do, and I don’t think I’d be able to accomplish all of my goals if I weren’t single. Being unattached means I have more time to be ambitious and tackle my goals without feeling like I’m neglecting my relationship and my partner.
- I’m Not Willing to Sacrifice. I’ve done a lot of sacrificing in previous relationships. I would bend over backward for boyfriends, putting their happiness before my own, and I never truly felt happy on the inside. But now, it’s time for me to do me. I’m not willing to give up anything that makes me happy for the sake of getting engaged or married. My married and engaged friends definitely had to give up some portions of their lives when they settled down, and I’m just not willing to do the same.
