Every relationship hits the occasional rough patch, but that doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. The longer you’re with someone, the easier it is to become complacent. Don’t let that happen! The key to a healthy and successful relationship is to never fall out of love with your partner — here are 12 ways to make sure that doesn’t happen.
- Stop Focusing On The Negative. Your partner is human just like you and they’re going to make mistakes. That doesn’t mean you have to ostracize them for their mistakes. Instead of starting fights every time they forget to take the trash out, pick your battles. If you’re constantly screaming at your partner for trivial things, it’s going to be hard to stay in love.
- Live In The Moment. To fall more in love, you need to live in the present. Leave your work at work and your phone at home. When you’re with your partner, you should be doing your best to connect, and you can’t connect if you’re too busy scrolling through Instagram. Disconnect from the world, at least a few times during the week, to enjoy an hour of undistracted time with your significant other. It’ll go a long way!
- Talk Every Day. A busy schedule isn’t an excuse for bad communication. You don’t have to sit on the phone for hours, but you do need to check-in with each other, whether that’s a few text messages a day or a five-minute phone call. You and your partner can make your own rules when it comes to communication. What’s important is you both know what’s going on in each other’s lives.
- Send Flirty Messages. Remember when you were a teenager and texting your crush gave you instant butterflies? Get back to that. You don’t have to be 18 to flirt like you’re 18. Send your partner flirty messages during the day and don’t be afraid to be bold. Your partner will love that you’re putting in the effort to be fun and cute.
- Re-discover What You Have In Common. You wouldn’t be dating if you didn’t have some things in common. It’s good to remind each other what those things are. Once a week, look at each other’s schedules and block out time to do things you love together. Go to a concert, a comedy club, etc. It’s not hard to make time for fun — you just have to be proactive about it.
- Spend Time Apart. Do you want to fall more in love with your partner? Spend some time apart. Distance makes the heart grow fonder, as they say, which means you shouldn’t do everything together. Believe it or not, it’s completely okay to have separate hobbies and different friends. In fact, it can actually strengthen your relationship.
- Pay Attention. So many couples break up simply because they stop paying attention to each other. You don’t have to be obsessed with your partner, but they need to be a priority. Listen when they tell you things and remember what they say. You’re supposed to be a rock for your significant other, which means you need to pay more attention to them than your favorite Netflix show.
- Touch Each Other. Emotional intimacy is important, but so is physical intimacy. Long-term relationships die out when people stop touching each other. Make time for sex (even when you’re tired) and kiss every day. Touch your partner’s arm, hug them tight, and hold their hand even when you’re just sitting on the couch. It’s so easy to be physical, and yet so many people forget.
- Share The Real S**t. Sure, you talk to your partner, but what do you talk about? The weather? Your annoying boss? Instead of keeping the conversation light, try to dig a little deeper. Ask questions that can’t be answered with a “yes” or “no.” Get personal with your partner, so you never forget who they really are.
- Take Turns Entertaining. Your significant other shouldn’t be the only one planning date nights. You should have a say too. You should take turns surprising each other with unique date night ideas to keep the relationship fresh. That way, you’ll constantly be doing something new and engaging.
- Be Kind. Your words and actions have the power to control everything; including how you feel about your partner. If you want to fall more in love, you need to be kind. Express gratitude and appreciation so your partner feels loved and you feel happier about yourself and your relationship.
- Remember Why You Fell In Love. Have you been together for a while? After a couple of years, everything starts to feel routine. And that can make you forget why you fell in love with your partner, to begin with. We suggest making a mental list of everything you love about your partner and keeping that list in the back of your mind. When you’re mad, or unsure about the relationship, read the list over.
