To state what should be the obvious here, dating is meant to be fun and exciting. If the guy you’re dating isn’t giving you the same feelings you have when you see your food coming at a restaurant, then maybe he’s not the one for you.
- Dating is all about the butterflies. Relationships are meant to be all about the butterflies, especially in the beginning. If he’s not making your stomach do the whole flippy-over thing that makes you feel sick and excited at the same time when you first meet, then that speaks volumes. Relationships take time to develop, but attraction and chemistry should be pretty immediate.
- If you don’t feel anything for him, you obviously don’t care about him. For me, having the butterflies means that you really like and care about someone. Why would you get nervous and fluttery about a guy you don’t give a damn about? It just doesn’t make sense. If you have the butterflies as soon as you see a guy, you obviously feel excited about him. And excitement leads to passion, which is a key ingredient in any successful relationship.
- He’s supposed to be your date, not your friend. If your date is making you feel nothing in the stomach region, it’s not a good sign. I mean, a lot of us get excited just by seeing our friends, so if you can’t get excited about the guy you’re dating and supposedly building a future with, it doesn’t even suggest that friendship is on the cards. It sucks, but in that case, it sounds like a lose/lose situation and you should get out now.
- If you’re not feeling excited, there’s usually a reason why. Granted, you might not always feel the butterflies the longer your relationship goes on. However, you should want to pounce on a sex buddy or love interest the first time you spot him again after an absence, especially if he’s only recently come into your life. If you’d rather give your guy a friendly hug instead of indulging in a passionate make-out session with him, ask yourself why. Do you really fancy him or are you not sure you’re ready to date right now?
- Life’s too short to settle. If you’re not feeling the butterflies early on in your relationship, can you imagine what life might be later down the line if you stick with this guy? Well, I’ll tell you—no romance, no spark, and just a lot of bland sex. You’re not being fair to either of you if you carry things on just for the sake of it or just because you’re comfortable. The truth is, we live in the 21st century where we have options and a choice. Utilize this.
- You deserve a big love. You deserve passion, love, understanding, companionship—all the good stuff when it comes to the special someone in your life. Don’t settle for anything less than extraordinary because love isn’t meant to be a maybe thing. (Thanks, Lauren Conrad.) It’s meant to be an all-consuming, full of fire, “I would die for you” kind of thing. Whatever you do, never give up on the idea of this.
- If you do realize you’re not feeling it, address the issue sooner rather than later. If you’ve discovered that there’s some kind of issue and the butterflies are well and truly non-existent, then it’s best to address it sooner rather than later. It’s true that sometimes feelings grow and develop out of nowhere, but there should at least be something to work with. If you can’t muster an ounce of excitement for the guy in your life, he’s obviously not the one for you.
- Say goodbye and move on. It’s important to find a guy who does make your stomach do somersaults on a daily basis and who, after many years have gone by, still manages to give you the same feelings you have when you see your food coming at a restaurant. Because that, my friends, is true love.
