Enough With The Bad Boys — Go For The Good Guy

Genuinely nice guys always seem to get the short end of the stick in dating. Too many men believe that in order to get girls, they need to act like jerks or play the obnoxious alpha male role. Little do they know, that couldn’t be farther from the truth — at least for me. Some women may be intrigued by and attracted to bad boys, but I’ll go for nice guys every single time. Here’s why:

  1. They’re sensitive to my emotions. As a sensitive woman and I need a sensitive guy by my side to make sure I feel loved, supported and understood. I cry and get upset over the smallest things and if I don’t have a nice guy to help make me feel better, life is gonna be really difficult.
  2. They don’t lie — at least not nearly as much. I hear women say all the time that “all men are liars” and yeah, fine, maybe that’s kind of true. But in my experience, nice guys are way less likely to lie than their bad boy counterparts. That’s what makes them so, well, nice. They’re not sociopaths, which is apparently a lot to ask for nowadays.
  3. They’re humble. A bad boy is way more likely to be a narcissist than a nice guy is. Jerks have this amazing talent of talking about themselves ALL. DAY. LONG. Nice guys don’t need to because they’re not using their inflated self-image as a way of protecting their ego. They accept themselves where they’re at and to me, that’s hot.
  4. They actually WANT to hang out with me. Is it just me, or do bad boys always seem to have somewhere more important to be? Nice guys would never abandon our plans because a) they respect me and b) they actually enjoy spending time with me and want to do it as often as possible. That’s how it should be when you care about someone, right?
  5. They accept me for who I am and that feels really good. Nice guys will always accept me, flaws and all. They know that no one’s perfect and they’d never want me to be — they actually love my quirks and idiosyncrasies. If I’m feeling down about myself, they don’t make fun of me for it (even jokingly). They actually have the emotional maturity to support me, and let’s face it — most guys can’t do this.
  6. They’re usually more interesting to talk to. Nice guys haven’t tried to crack the code in getting girls to sleep with them. They’ve just been coasting along on their million dollar personality which bad boys just can’t compete with. Your typical jerks will usually just talk about themselves and don’t really care about anything (or so they pretend), so there’s nothing to fuel the conversation. Nice guys have the best sense of humor and actually have something interesting to say which is refreshing to say the least.
  7. They don’t take themselves too seriously. They don’t want to make waves — they just want to have fun, and I’m totally down for that. If they get into a disagreement with someone, they usually handle it calmly and with grace, unlike bad boys who are prone to throwing tantrums. Being able to laugh at yourself and be laid-back is a must-have for me in relationships.
  8. They’re always be there for me. I never have to worry about nice guys up and leaving when I need them the most because they put me first and sincerely care about my well being. They tend to make sure I’m okay before tending to their own needs because, yes, you guessed it — they’re nice.
  9. The relationship tends to be drama-free. Once I have nice guys locked down, I never have to stress about my love life. They don’t leave me guessing about where I stand with them or have me stressing about cheating or lying — what you see is what you get with nice guys, and that’s REALLY refreshing.
  10. I can take them places and be sure they’ll behave. I never have to worry about introducing them to friends and family because they always keep it cool. They how to connect with people and they’re extremely likable, which makes going out in public a breeze. I don’t have to worry that they’re going to get drunk and embarrass me or act like jerks — it just never happens.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.
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