I Don’t Date Randoms—I’m Only Interested In Guys Who Could Be “The One”

I believe in soulmates and I won’t even consider being with a guy unless I suspect that we’re meant to be together. Why waste my time on someone who’s definitely not “The One”? I won’t rest until I find my soulmate, and if that keeps me single long-term, so be it.

  1. Love is supposed to be the most important thing in the world, right? If we’re not here to love, then what are we even doing with our lives? There’s a reason every second song on the radio is about love—as humans, we’re pretty much obsessed with it. I’m a huge romantic and see love as THE most important thing in my life. If I don’t have a perfect guy to love, I’m just half-assing it and that’s just not good enough for me.
  2. I’d rather die alone than with someone who I just “kinda” love. When I’m in a relationship, I’m constantly aware of how I feel in relation to the other person. If I’m not feeling that deep connection that I know I should be getting from a “would-be” soulmate, then I’d honestly rather just be single.
  3. Yeah, I’m an idealist, and there’s nothing wrong with that. My friends sometimes make fun of me for sounding like I’m in my own rom-com but I can’t help it. I don’t hide my feelings and opinions when it comes to love and romance—it’s just THAT important to me. I believe that love should fill me with an eternal joy that transcends time and the only way I’m going to be able to experience that is if I find my soulmate. That’s just how it works!
  4. I can’t be my best self unless I’m with my best person. My best self is my authentic self and only my true soulmate will be able to bring that out of me. I feel that by being with my soulmate, I’ll be able to finally be who I was always meant to be—unabashedly me.
  5. I don’t want to be with someone for materialistic reasons. Some people get into relationships because it gives them a sense of security or they want similar things like a house and a baby. All I need to get into a relationship with someone is a deep soul connection, which is pretty hard to come by. Once I find it, though, everything else will just fall into place.
  6. I know that once I find my soulmate, relationships will finally make sense to me. Maybe the reason why all of my past relationships ended prematurely is that we just weren’t meant to be. I trust that when I find the guy I’m truly meant to be with, I’ll finally be able to experience that kind of fairy tale love I’ve only ever heard about from other people.
  7. My personal growth depends on it. The whole point of being in a relationship is to grow as a couple as well as individually. I want to be changed by my partner in a good way. If not, there’s no point in even being together. I’ve been in toxic relationships in the past and I’ve accepted that I was just not meant to be with those people forever, which is fine. I would want me and my partner to make each other better, which I hear is what soulmates do best…
  8. I know we’re destined to meet, so I just have to wait. I have unwavering faith that it’s going to happen. I mean, it has to, right? So many couples have that story of meeting their soulmate and just knowing they were “The One.” I know that’s going to happen to me too, I just need to be open and willing to let my soulmate float into my life.
  9. My soulmate will accept me fully for who I am and that feels damn good. Who wouldn’t want to be completely loved and accepted for who they are? The whole thing about soulmates is that it’s two people who are perfect for each other as-is—no need to change or impress or make sacrifices. All of the so-called compromises people say you have to make in order to make your relationship work become obsolete because we would be “made” for each other from the very start.
  10. Once I meet him, I know it’ll be like pure magic. I don’t want our first meeting to be an awkward date that was set up on purpose. I want to see him from across the way and experience a rush inside me of, “Wow, he’s The One.”  That feeling, to me, is more legit than having a high match score on OKCupid. I’ve heard love at first sight is a real thing and I can’t wait until it happens to me.
Jennifer is a playwright, dancer, and theatre nerd living in the big city of Toronto, Canada. She studied Creative Writing at Concordia University and works as a lifestyle writer who focuses on Health, B2B, Tech, Psychology, Science, Food Trends and Millennial Life. She's also a coreographer, playwright, and lyricist, with choreography credits for McMaster University’s “Spring Awakening,” “Roxanne” for the Guelph Contemporary Dance Festival, and “The Beaver Den” for The LOT, among others.

You can see more of her work on her Contently page and follow her on Instagram @jenniferenchin.
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