You’re open to finding love, you put yourself out there and you do everything you can to invite great guys into your life and nothing seems to be working. But just because you’re still single doesn’t mean you’re a total failure. If it feels like dating is getting you nowhere, here’s what you need to remember:
- You’re on your own journey. Sure, you might wish that you met a great guy back in college and were married or at least living together by now, but that wouldn’t be your story, and your story is what matters. You’re unique, you’re on your own journey and you should own and appreciate that instead of letting it get you down.
- You’re doing fine. You’re not messing up as much as you think you are. Promise. If you’re going on dates and are open to guys regardless of whether or not they fit your “type” then you’re doing all that you can and you really shouldn’t sweat it.
- You’re not alone. You have close friends that feel like sisters. You have family that supports your every move. You have your fellow single women cheering you on, even if totally silently and from super far away. You’ve got a really full and amazing life, guy or no guy.
- You’re keeping an open mind. If you can do this, which is a lot harder than it sounds, then you’re succeeding more than you could ever know. As long as you’re not closing the door on guys that really have nothing wrong with them but might not be your exact dream date then you’re doing a pretty good job at this whole dating thing.
- You’re so close. You’re probably much closer to your next relationship than you think, even if it feels totally inconceivable. That’s the cool thing about life. Knowing the future would be so lame and totally boring. Embrace that magical feeling of being about to meet your soulmate because it really could happen.
- You’re in the same boat as everyone else. This is actually a good thing. If you were the only single woman in a sea of couples, that would be pretty horrible, but you definitely have at least a few friends who are in the dating trenches right along with you. Try to find comfort in that instead of lamenting how much it sucks to be single and dating because you already know that bad attitude isn’t getting you anywhere.
- You’re all set. You’re not some loser who’s nothing close to girlfriend material. You’re funny, smart, ambitious, caring… and the list just goes on. You’re all set, waiting for true love. Once you do meet your match, you won’t have to wonder if you’re ready because you already know you will be.
- You’ve got this. Tons of women are single and that’s perfectly okay, but tons of women also find happy relationships — why can’t that be you too? Don’t worry. Keep trying, keeping being you and don’t give up. You’re going to find love. You’ve got this.
