You can’t change who people are, but you can avoid them and their bad behaviors. Don’t settle for a guy who makes you feel insecure and crazy. If you notice any of these dating behaviors, be suspicious. Don’t stick around to see how badly you get played out, RUN.
- He’s low-key obsessed with you. You’ve been on two, maybe three dates and he’s already calling you his girlfriend. He texts you all day and even wants to introduce you to his parents. Sure, maybe he’s a nice guy who knows what he wants. Or, maybe he likes the idea of being in love, so he’s all over you without really knowing you. Either way, be suspicious.
- He’s overly inquisitive. At first, it might seem like a good sign. He’s asking so many questions because he’s interested, but is he sharing anything about himself or is he just firing questions your way? He might be overly inquisitive because he’s making sure you’re good enough, which means this relationship is already one-sided.
- He’s clearly very guarded. You can tell he’s been hurt and not ready to fall in love again. I’m not saying this is a red flag, but you should be cautious. Chances are, it’s going to take a long time for him to lower his guard and show emotion. If you can hang, that’s great, but if not, that’s OK too.
- He shares way too much. He loves gossip (honestly, most guys do). He shares everything about his friends, family, and co-workers. There’s no way you can trust him with your own secrets. Trust me, if he’s sharing his great aunt’s personal stories, he’s sharing yours. PERIODT.
- His personality changes. His personality in person is completely different than his personality via texting. That’s weird! He shouldn’t change when he gets behind a screen, but he does! He asks super personal questions, talks about sex, and says things that are wildly inappropriate. He sounds like a freak who doesn’t know who the hell he is.
- He only wants to chill. His idea of a date night is ordering food and watching TV at home. He’s lazy and uninterested in putting in the effort to make you feel special. That’s not a partner, that’s a friend with benefits. He should want to woo you, at least every now and again. If he doesn’t, what’s the point of him?
- He’s not upfront about his emotions. You’ve been spending time together for a month and he’s still “unsure” of his feelings. He’s shady and it’s on purpose. He knows what he wants and what he wants is to NOT be in a committed relationship with you. But instead of being honest, he’s playing you out.
- He’s judgmental. He’s not outright rude, but he’s very vocal about what he likes and doesn’t like. For example, he doesn’t like when women wear jumpsuits and he doesn’t date people who aren’t college-educated. Everyone has opinions, but he’s too comfortable sharing his arrogant ideologies with you. The worst part is he doesn’t care if you’re offended by them.
- He disappears out of nowhere. He’s not consistent. He stops talking to you out of nowhere, with no real excuse. That’s suspicious behavior. It’s normal for people to get busy, but he should be able to communicate that. Unfortunately, he doesn’t have the common sense to let you know when he’s working late or going on a trip with the boys. K.
- He’s always on his phone. I don’t care if you’re a millennial or a Gen-Y, you shouldn’t be on the phone when you’re on a date. If he’s scrolling through Instagram while you’re talking, he’s not worth your time. He doesn’t care what you’re saying enough to put his phone down and that’s the sign of a guy who’ll never give you his full attention.
- He’s an excessive drinker. There’s nothing wrong with having a couple of drinks, but you’re noticing a trend. He’s either always drunk (or always tipsy) when you’re together. That’s not a characteristic you want in a partner; especially if it makes you uncomfortable. Most people are on their best behavior at the beginning of a relationship. If this is his best, imagine his worse.
- He’s a liar. He says he wants a relationship, but he’s yet to set exclusive standards. He says he wants to be with you all the time, but he rarely makes plans without you making the first move. He’s a liar who’s words don’t match his actions. This a dating behavior you need to be woke about so you can RUN away as quickly as possible.
