When you make your boyfriend your entire world, things are bound to crash and burn at some point. Spending so much time together may seem harmless at first, but nurturing your relationship doesn’t mean you have to completely abandon everything else that makes you who you are. You probably don’t realize the balance between your love life and your own personal life is skewed, so here are the signs that you’re way too attached at the hip and need to spend some time away from him:
- You Never Go Out Without Him. Having a boyfriend who’s also your best friend is all gravy, but if you only go out when he’s by your side, it’s time for you to get a life. Scheduling date nights with your guy is crucial to keeping the love and intimacy alive, but you should also be penciling in some time in your schedule to do things without your better half being attached at your hip.
- You Haven’t Been to Your Apartment in Weeks. If you’ve forgotten what the layout of your apartment looks like, haven’t checked your mailbox in weeks, and can’t even remember the last time you slept in your own bed, these are all bad signs. Of course, you want to spend every waking moment with the guy you love, but you can’t get so caught up in your relationship that you neglect all the responsibilities you have going on at your own pad. Sleeping alone in your own bed a few nights a week isn’t going to kill you. Trust me.
- You’re Lost When He’s Busy. On the rare occasion that your boyfriend leaves the house without you (you know, because he actually has things to do that don’t include you), you’re completely lost and don’t even know what to do with yourself. If your guy goes out with the boys for a few hours, and you’re just sitting at home waiting for him to make your hotline bling, it’s definitely a sign you need to get a life of your own.
- You Take Him for Granted. Since the two of you can’t breathe without the other person being all up in your mix, you’ve probably gotten used to him being around all the time. Taking your boyfriend for granted means you might start slacking on trying to make him happy, you stop going out of your way to look nice and dress up for him, and you may not always be so sweet to him because you just assume he’s going to stick around no matter what. If you think you’ve got him wrapped around your little finger and he isn’t going anywhere, it’s time to make a change in your relationship.
- He’s the Only One Who Texts/Calls You. As you fall deeper into your co-dependent relationship, you’ll start to notice that the only person who calls or sends you a text is your boyfriend. The two of you may even text back and forth while you’re sitting right next to each other on the couch. You may think it’s cute, but it’s definitely not healthy.
- You No Longer Have Any Hobbies. Your boyfriend probably fell in love with you because you were active, and you were always busy doing something you loved. If you’ve completely given up your hobbies and the things that interested you because you’d rather spend time with your partner, you’re basically throwing in the towel on your own life. It’s time to get back to doing the things that make you happy.
- Sex Has Left the Building. You may think more time together equals more sex. WRONG! Being with your partner 24/7 means the two of you will start to become a little too comfortable with each other. He’s going to hear every fart and catch a whiff of every explosive excrement that’s expelled from your body. Do you really think it gets him in the mood every time you tell him you’ve got the bubble guts after eating a bean burrito from Taco Bell? When there’s no more mystery in your relationship, intimacy will slowly dry up until it’s non-existent. Sex isn’t everything in a relationship, but it’s pretty damn important. If you’re spending so much time together but sex is never on the agenda, it’s definitely time the two of you take some time away from each other.
- Your Family and Friends Have Forgotten What You Look Like. Are your friends and family members begging to hang out with you? Do they make comments about never seeing you since you got wrapped up in your relationship? If so, they’re trying to tell you in a nice way that you’re making your relationship your entire life… and it’s not cool! If you can’t even remember the last time you saw your loved ones, it’s time to make some changes. If your relationship ends, you’re going to need your friends and family in your corner — so don’t burn those bridges!
- You’ve Turned Into the Female Version of Him. It’s super adorable when couples finish each other’s sentences and say the exact same words at the exact same time, but if you’re morphing into the female version of your partner, it’s time you got a reality check. Getting lost within your relationship is one thing, but losing your entire identity and literally becoming your boyfriend’s twin isn’t healthy at all.
