When you’re truly single AF for long periods of time, you start to live a pretty unique lifestyle — you starfish on your mattress, binge watch Netflix and probably forget to shave your legs to the point that you don’t need pants to brave cold winter nights. You also learn some pretty incredible life lessons from spending extended time on your own. Here are just a few of them:
- You stop caring about idiot guys. You’ve braved so many losers that you can spot them from an entire continent away and now know how to avoid them like the plagues they are. You used to dig the bad boy vibe and liked it when a guy seemed unattainable, but now you realize what a waste of precious Netflix time those jerks really are.
- You realize there’s a lot more to life than being in a relationship. You know that love isn’t the only endgame in life because you’ve experienced so many other amazing things in the meantime — things like chasing career goals, starting your own business, traveling, volunteering, rescuing animals and making positive impacts on people who can do nothing for you in return.
- You know how to comfort yourself and dig yourself out of emotional holes. When you stop caring about having someone to comfort you in times of need, you start learning how to do it yourself. You know that there’s no better feeling than being able to handle all of life’s unwelcome stresses like the one woman wolf pack that you are.
- You truly get the importance of your downtime and alone time. You know your body and when it’s time to take a breather from your fast-paced day-to-day life. Plus, it’s just so damn relaxing to throw a onesie on and chill in the comfort of your own place and do literally anything you please. Even if you were to get into a relationship, you wouldn’t make the guy your entire world because you actually need your alone time for your own sanity now.
- You find new hobbies and make amazing new friends. While others spend time in the routine of their relationships, you’re forming new ones of your own with fascinating people and activities. You become interested in fun new hobbies and start to make new friends outside of the ones you grew up with and have known for years. Even though you’re not there yet, you know that your own self-discovery is equally as important and fulfilling.
- You have a new attitude towards love. When you spend a ton of time on your own, you really do change your personal wants and needs for the forever guy you hope to have in your life. It’s no longer all about materialism, looks or social status. Instead, you’re looking for a mature guy who has a good heart, can keep his act together and perhaps most importantly, who’ll respect and appreciate you.
- You truly begin to fall in love with yourself. Spending time alone is truly the best and only way to really get to know yourself deeply. When you’ve been single AF for years, you get to know facets of yourself that you probably didn’t even realize existed, which is hard to do when you’re busy running from relationship to relationship. Not only have you learned who you are and what you want out of life, you’ve also fallen completely in love with yourself and you’re proud as hell of the woman you’ve become as a result of being single this long.
- You no longer hold yourself back from going after exactly what you want. You know exactly what life has to offer you and you’re not going to settle for anything mediocre — what’s the point? You’ve braved every single storm alone thus far, so you don’t need to stop just to fit into any kind of norm. Since you’re completely confident and content with who you are and what you want, you won’t settle for crap and you definitely won’t settle for any kind of love that’s anything short of amazing.
