It can be a little flattering to realize you’ve caught the attention of someone new. But sometimes, their intentions may not be completely clear. When a new guy starts talking you up, it’s definite that he wants to get to know you better. But, what does it mean? And, does it necessarily mean he wants to ask you out?
- He feels like he can trust you. Do you know that feeling of relief when you walk into a new class and happen to see a friend? It makes you feel like you’re not in this alone. It’s possible that he views you as someone he trusts and enjoys spending time with. Whether you’re looking for a romantic relationship or just a friendship, it’s a great thing when someone feels comfortable enough to open up to you. You might be his safety net or the only person in the room he trusts.
- If he’s a coworker, he may have deemed you his best friend in the office. Everyone has someone that they relate to the most. Work friends are a wonderful way to make the day go by a little quicker. It’s possible that out of everyone you work with, the two of you have the most chemistry with each other. This is good to develop, especially if you’re like-minded when it comes to projects (or simply want someone to carpool with).
- He wants to be more like you. This may sound a little strange, but think about it — you’re only as good as the company you keep. If you have a love of horror movies or happen to have one of the most eclectic record collections, it’s possible he admires that kind of lifestyle. Open up to him about his interests, and see if you have anything else in common. It’s possible you can both encourage each other’s interests.
- He has a crush on you. This may be one of the most obvious answers, but it’s something you don’t want to immediately jump to. Not all connections need to be romantic, and it’s possible he just thinks you’re really nice. Opening up about having a crush can be hard for a guy, so he might be hanging around in hopes that you’ll ask him to grab lunch or coffee together. If you’re hoping this is the answer, you might want to take note of other ways he’s communicating his feelings. Does he get physically close to you? Does he make eye contact and smile? All of these are natural signs he may be interested.
- His friend has a crush on you. If he keeps hanging around you and mentioning a friend, it’s possible he’s trying to figure out whether or not you’re single and ready to date. If he has a friend that’s been admiring you from afar, he may be playing the role of wingman. Think about whether or not he’s said something like “you should meet my friend,” or “I think you’d have a lot in common with a friend of mine.” If so, consider this a casual set-up.
- He thinks it’s a good idea to associate with you. Let’s get one thing straight. If you’re the type of person to have their life in balance, that’s an attractive quality. Seeming happy and content while balancing work, friendships, and everyday living is almost contagious. Sometimes, guys simply want to associate with positive, powerful women. Maybe he’s being extra close since he wants to be in your inner circle.
- He’s using you for something. This possibility isn’t quite as fun. But luckily, it’s also rare. You should have a good idea of whether or not this guy is reputable or obnoxious, but if it’s the latter, he could be manipulating your time for something in return. Maybe he thinks you’ll help him pass a class. If you come from a wealthy family by chance — or happen to have a high-profile job — he might assume that being in your circle will lead to handouts.
- He just doesn’t understand personal boundaries. Another not-so-fun option, but it’s true. It’s great if you’re flattered by the attention, but it can be a cause of stress and anxiety if someone you don’t like seems to always be around. It can be difficult to find the courage to tell them to back off, especially if they’re nice. That said, personal space is important and it’s equally important to express yourself. Saying something like, “I just need a little alone time” might help get the point across.
