15 Things That Happen When You’re The “Mom” Of Your Friend Group

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Every friend group has its fair share of different personality types. Some of those types tend to be a little more responsible than others. Here are some things that happen when you just so happen to be the “mom” of your group – because someone has to fill that role, and it just comes naturally to you.

  1. You loan more money than you should. But if you didn’t, you guys wouldn’t be going out tonight at all.
  2. You feel like a mom. You told your girl exactly what would happen if she went out with that questionable guy and now she’s crying on your shoulder because she did it anyway.
  3. Sometimes you just want someone to take care of you. It’s not like you’re planning on blacking out this weekend, but if you did get a little rowdy, you would at least hope that someone could pull it together to help you out just this one time.
  4. You talk people down. Whether it’s an impending bar brawl or overly aggressive road rage, it’s not happening on your watch.
  5. You remind your girls about goals they set. Yesterday your friend was complaining about her weight and today she’s trying to eat donuts in front of you. Nope.
  6. You’ve taken more trips to the drugstore for your friends than you have for yourself. Pregnancy tests, cold medicine, cheap wine…
  7. You freak your friends out when you’re having an off day. They’re so used to seeing you be the rock that they don’t even know what to do when you have a crappy story to tell.
  8. You know where their stuff is even when they don’t. Before your bestie can have a melt down about losing her phone, you remember that she left it on the car seat.
  9. You’re an expert at helping someone who’s sick. You’re great at holding a girl’s hair back without getting close enough to the toilet to get any back splash.
  10. People trust you. Your friends’ parents like you, the waiter always drops the bill in front of you, the door man defers to you to answer questions about how many people are in your group…
  11. You’re the go-to shoulder to cry on. No matter what’s going on in your own life, you often find yourself opening the door to the friend who “just can’t”.
  12. You err on the side of caution, maybe even more so when you’re with other people. You’ve done a bit of driving with the gaslight on, but you will not let anyone else get away with this.
  13. You apologize to strangers for the behavior of your friends. Your friend didn’t even notice that she spilled her drink on that guy as she walked past, but you sure did.
  14. You think about food in advance. At what point during this day party will you guys be eating? If it’s never, better believe you’re packing snacks in your purse.
  15. You help people you don’t even know. If someone crosses your path in obvious distress you feel like it’s necessary to at least ask what’s wrong. Sigh. It’s a lot of responsibility, but someone’s gotta do it.
Kate Ferguson is a Los Angeles local and freelance writer for a variety of blog and magazine genres. When she's not writing, the UC Davis graduate is focused on pursuits of the entertainment industry, spin class, and hot sauce. Look for article links, updates, (and the occasional joke) on Twitter @KateFerg or @WriterKateFerg, or check out her personal blog ThatsRandomKate.blogspot.com
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