He might say he loves you, but does he really? Let’s face it, modern dating is challenging because there are so many liars and cheaters pretending they want a relationship when really, they just want someone they can manipulate. Don’t fall for it. If any of these 11 signs sound familiar, he’s completely in love with you and you have nothing to worry about.
- He Doesn’t Mind Following Your Lead. Not many people enjoy leaving their comfort zones. But he’ll happily take the leap, within reason of course. He might not go skydiving if he has a fear of heights, but he’ll sit through The Real Housewives of Atlanta without complaining or eat a salad from that new organic place you’ve been wanting to try. He loves you and he’ll try anything you like at least once.
- He Consistently Reaches Out. He’ll text you “good morning” and randomly check in throughout the day just so he’s up to date on your life. He loves you and wants to know what you’re doing (even if you’re just binge-watching something basic on Netflix). People don’t typically care about someone’s day to day unless they have strong feelings for them.
- He Gives More Than He Takes. Real love is about giving. It’s about being selfless and putting your partner’s needs over your own. When you love someone, your job becomes making sure they feel comfortable and happy. Your boyfriend does that all the time, and that’s because he’s totally in love with you. He would never intentionally do anything that could compromise your happiness.
- He Wants To Be Near You. He touches you every chance he gets. He grabs your hand when you’re walking outside and randomly hugs you in the middle of the kitchen. He wants to be physically and emotionally close. Sometimes when you’re sitting on the couch, mouth full of Chipotle, you catch him staring at you. Not because he thinks you’re so hot, but because he loves you and can’t help but look at you.
- He Values Your Opinions. A lot of people might be interested in what you have to say. But a guy who’s in love with you will value what you have to say. You’ll become the first person he reaches out to for advice, regardless of how small or big the problem is. He runs everything by you because you’re his partner in life and he wants to know your thoughts.
- His Actions Match His Words. He doesn’t just say he loves you, he shows it in his actions. He makes plans to spend time together, he compliments you, he reaches out every single day and introduces you to his friends and family. He makes it clear that you aren’t just a fling or an option, but someone he wants to spend all his free time with.
- He Doesn’t Make You Jealous. It’s not enough to not cheat. Nowadays, you should actively avoid situations that could lead to temptation. He doesn’t bar hop with the guys on Friday night, or Snapchat his ex’s from college. He doesn’t spend time with people who could influence him in any way, and that’s because he’s in love. He’s 100% committed and wouldn’t risk losing you.
- He Asks About Your Friends. (And not because he wants to sleep with them.) He asks about your friends because they’re important to you, and therefore, they’re important to him. The same goes for your family. He genuinely wants to know how your brother likes his new job, and what your mom’s doing for her birthday. Your people have become his people!
- He Doesn’t Stay Mad. He doesn’t hold a grudge. If you two have a fight, he doesn’t run away or get pouty until you finally apologize. He talks the problem out with you and works to find a resolution. Sure, he might not be the world’s best communicator, but he’ll try, instead of shutting down and getting mad like a petulant child.
- His Friends Know About You. And not just the bitchy, little things you do when you’re pissed off. His friends know all the good. They know about your job promotion and how you got an A+ in geometry 10 years ago. That’s because he brags about you all the time. Seriously. He probably spends more time talking to his friends about your accomplishments than his own.
- He Won’t Give Up. What’s one thing all your exes had in common? They were quitters. When things got difficult, they bowed out. They either went quiet or broke up with you, so they didn’t have to deal with your emotions. You know this guy loves you because he hasn’t left, and it doesn’t seem like he ever will. He’s stood by your side through the ups and downs and has never once made you feel overly emotional or crazy.
