They say you need to have all your ducks in a row before you can be truly ready for that next big love in your life. When we’re alone, we’re constantly trying to improve ourselves and our lives to become better candidates for that right person when they come along. You might not realize it, but if you can relate to these things, you might just be in that place and you could be ready for your next big relationship:
- You’ve built a life for yourself. You’ve got your home life handled and a schedule to match. You’ve worked hard on building a career for yourself and putting a roof over your head, and you find real enjoyment in your social circle despite not having someone to help you or enjoy the moments with.
- You’re happy on your own. You’re truly happy showing up at parties by yourself and completing the entire daily grind completely solo. You’re cool with being alone at home and don’t need to be constantly distracted by someone or something. You don’t need to be swiping Tinder just because you’re single. You don’t need someone else to validate your life because you’re happy with yourself, and that’s all that matters.
- You’ve weeded out what you don’t want in a partner. You’ve dated and come across guys you just don’t gel with, so you’ve parted ways and let them go. You won’t settle just for the sake of being in a relationship or being part of a couple. You know what you want and you don’t hesitate to wait it out until you find what you’re looking for.
- You’ve stopped looking. You’re perfectly fine with not dating at all. In fact, you’ve taken or are taking a healthy break from it. They say when you finally stop looking, you finally find what you’re looking and there’s actual truth in that irony. It’s because when you’re not looking it means you feel your life is great as it is, which is exactly why someone becomes attracted to you. There’s no desperation.
- You don’t cry at thoughts of your ex anymore. When you see your ex in public, you no longer want to bulldoze him with your car. You don’t listen to Adele on repeat with tissues and a bag of Doritos and you’re actually genuinely happy when and if you see he’s moved on. You’re totally over it and ready for the next phase.
- You’ve identified and worked on your insecurities. You’ve looked back on your past relationship failures and you’ve come to terms with your shortcomings and realized the ways in which you need to improve to be a better partner going forward. You no longer play the blame game with your past relationships and you stopped pointing fingers at all the things they did wrong, which is not only very grown up — it’s also freeing.
- You feel complete. It doesn’t matter anymore that you show up at events alone, or are always the tag along third or fifth wheel on nights out with your friends. You feel whole without someone by your side and you don’t feel the void even when everyone else seems to have someone beside them.
- You’re ready to take a risk. You know it’ll be a gamble and that you might be hurt again, but you’re willing and ready to take a chance at potential happiness. The thought of a relationship doesn’t scare you at all, nor does the thought of not having one.
- You don’t hesitate to ask for what you want. You don’t gloss over things that bother you and you’ve mastered the art of saying how you feel and what you want out of life. You don’t hide things on dates just to avoid scaring someone off, because you know it’s a complete waste of time to not be yourself or play it safe for the sake of not being alone or holding someone’s interest. You want their interest to be genuine.
- You love yourself. You truly love the person you are. You’ve created a life of your own, and you have plenty going on in life without the need for a relationship, which is actually why you’re completely ready for one- because when life is awesome without one, the right person becomes a happy bonus in that happy life you’ve built.
