Admittedly, there are a lot of guys who like to have their cake and eat it too. While this definitely doesn’t apply to all guys, some of us have a tendency to juggle multiple girlfriends at the same time. You may think you’ve gotten a guy to commit to you, but here are some signs that could indicate that your boyfriend has another girl on the side.
- He seems preoccupied. Juggling multiple women isn’t as easy as it sounds. Quite frankly, it doesn’t sound that easy. That means it’s easy for guys who have a side piece to be distracted or forgetful. After all, they’re splitting their attention between you and some other girl, not to mention everything else in their life. If a guy mixes up or forgets your inside jokes or seems generally distracted while he’s with you, his mind could be somewhere else. To be fair, there are a lot of things that could distract him, but thinking about another girl could be one of them.
- He plays phone games. This should be obvious, but there’s something sketchy about a guy who plays games with his phone. If he makes an effort to keep you away from it, he’s probably hiding something. This doesn’t always mean he has a second girlfriend, but even if he has flirty texts with a co-worker, he’ll want to keep you out of it. You should also keep a lookout for a guy with a second phone. Unless his job is super important and needs a special phone for business reasons, there’s no good reason why your boyfriend needs this.
- His “nuts ex” keeps contacting him. This is one of the great coverups for any guy who has a side piece. He’ll just claim that his “nuts ex-girlfriend” won’t stop calling and texting but really, he’s texting his side piece and lying so you won’t get suspicious. If he can get you to believe it, this is kind of a perfect scheme because he makes him look like a sympathetic victim. However, how many guys actually have a “nuts ex” who’s always texting them? The number is small, which is why you ladies shouldn’t fall for this lie.
- He smells different. Okay, so the way someone smells is circumstantial evidence at best. Jumping to conclusions about how a guy smells can also make you feel a little upset. That being said, if a guy has multiple girlfriends, he could smell different after being around her. He could also wear a little extra cologne or take extra showers to help cover up the stench of his side piece. It’s not conclusive, but a different smell can be evidence that he’s juggling multiple women.
- He avoids commitment. Let’s be honest, there are a lot of reasons why guys avoid commitment. Of course, having another girl on the side is one of those reasons. If you’re pushing to take things to the next level and he resists, he could be seeing someone else without telling you. In a way, he’s doing the right thing, kind of. But if he doesn’t want to be “Facebook official,” there could be another person in the mix.
- He’s still on dating sites. If you find out that your boyfriend keeps his profile on dating sites active, he’s probably not 100% all-in. Even if he doesn’t have a girl on the side, this is a good sign he’s at least open to the possibility. Let’s be honest, nobody in a relationship needs to be on a dating app. You should always be suspicious of guys who don’t erase those apps from their phone a few months into your relationship.
- His job keeps him “busy.” Okay, so some people actually have super important jobs that keep them occupied 50-60 hours a week, but unless your boyfriend has one of these jobs, there are only so many times you should accept “working late” as a viable excuse. A guy with a side piece will use this excuse for as long as it keeps working. Based on your boyfriend’s job, you should be able to tell if it holds any weight or not. If it doesn’t, he might have a second girl on the side.
- His sex drive is down. To be fair, there are a lot of reasons why your boyfriend’s sex drive could be done. Of course, getting it somewhere else is one of those reasons. Obviously, he won’t be in the mood if he’s sleeping with someone else. He might also feel more connected with the other person than with you. In addition to his sex drive, a lack of cuddling and affection can also indicate that his feelings are being split with another person.
- You’ve never met his friends. At some point, you’re going to have to meet your boyfriend’s friends, right? If he’s always stonewalling that, something is up. Maybe they’ve met his other girlfriend and he doesn’t want to confuse them by introducing them to someone else. For what it’s worth, there are other explanations for him not introducing you to his friends. But it’s a good indicator that he’s playing weird relationship games.
- He overcompensates. Guys with a side piece sometimes feel guilty, and guilty people tend to overcompensate. If your boyfriend is suddenly nicer than usual or showering you with presents for no reason, he’s either a great guy or feeling guilty. Obviously, your first instinct shouldn’t be feeling suspicious, but if he’s suddenly nice or acting out of character, it’s possible he’s acting that way out of guilt for having another girlfriend on the side.
