Don’t get me wrong — I love being single. I’m one of those girls who actually enjoys doing things on my own, but once in a while, I do wish I had the little perks of a relationship. These are some of the sweet things that boyfriends do that I simply don’t get when I’m alone:
- Flowers. Yeah, it’s cheesy and old-school, but I love it. The best is when a guy brings me a bouquet for no specific reason. It shows that he was thinking of me when I wasn’t around and wanted to do something to make me smile. Nothing wrong with that.
- Flirting with someone over text. This, on the other hand, is very new-school. I love it just as much. I’m not a morning person, so I don’t really want to talk to my guy on the phone first thing. Waking up to a sweet little message, though, is awesome and really perks up my day. Same with texts before bed… or even texts during the day. Hell, I’m not specific. Flirting back and forth with a new guy is not only adorable, it can also get really hot.
- Love notes. Anything handwritten gets me every time. Again, it shows that he’s taking the time and making an effort to do something that takes more than two seconds. Finding a cute little note after he’s left for the day is guaranteed to put a smile on my face. I’m a hopeless romantic, what can I say?
- Phone calls just to hear my voice. I do enjoy talking on the phone, just not in the early hours of the day. It’s super sweet when a guy calls me just to catch up and see how my day is going. I love those short little chats when he’s able to step out of work or he’s on lunch. It shows that he makes me a priority and he’s never too busy for me.
- Little surprises. These can be small, everyday gestures. I’m not high-maintenance when it comes to material things — I don’t care about money and grand gifts. I just want a guy who lets me know that he cares about me. I had one boyfriend who used to save me a cold glass of water in the fridge before he refilled the pitcher. How thoughtful is that? It doesn’t take much effort but it means a lot.
- Back/foot rubs. Ah! This is maybe what I miss the most! Granted, not all of the guys I’ve dated were great about doing this. I was usually the one giving the massages and not receiving much of anything back! Those who did, though… they were definitely getting repaid in all ways possible. The hardest part of being single is not having that close physical contact with another person. I miss it so much.
- Surprise breakfasts. Or lunches. Or dinners. It’s just easiest for a guy to surprise me with breakfast, as I hate the mornings and will stay in bed as long as humanly possible. I appreciate any effort a man makes for me, honestly, as I’ve dated a few who didn’t try at all. When they do something sweet like make me eggs and bacon in the morning, I’m all in. It doesn’t take a lot, guys!
- Impromptu visits. Since I’ve worked in restaurants and bars for years, it’s relatively easy for whomever I’m seeing at the time to pop in and say hello. Still, not many do it. Nothing brightens up a work night more than seeing the person you love walking through the door to hang out with you for a while. Once a guy even came straight to my work after driving back to Los Angeles from San Francisco because he missed me so much. Super cute.
- Spontaneous adventures. Sure, I do this on my own, but it’s awesome to have a partner who’s always down to take off and explore. I don’t do lazy, and I don’t do boring. If you want to lay on the couch all day and spend all our time together in bed, it isn’t going to work out. I miss the guys who were always down to try anything and go anywhere. It’s fun having an adventure buddy sometimes.
- Makeout sessions. I’m not talking about getting laid, though of course I miss that as well. I’m talking about sweet, innocent, fun little moments that never go beyond kissing. It can be super hot to take the time to kiss your guy in a sexy and intimate way without rushing it or trying to get to the main event. I like it when kissing is the main event! It creates tons of sexual tension for later and creates more emotional and physical intimacy. I totally miss making out.
