10 Revelations You Have When You Finally Come To Terms With Being Single

Way too many women waste their time moping about their single status when they should actually be celebrating it. There are worse things than being unattached. The only bad thing about being single is the stigma that everyone thinks it’s a bad thing. But once you come to terms with being single, a few glorious things will happen.

  1. You realize you don’t need a man to be happy. You still have crushes, but you’re not foolish enough to believe that dating would magically make your life better. You know that you’re the one in charge of your own happiness, so you won’t rely on a man to make you smile.
  2. You don’t feel the need to change yourself. You don’t care if men like you better as a brunette, because you prefer to keep your hair blonde. You’re not living for their approval, which is why you aren’t going to change your appearance or personality in order to please a passing crush.
  3. You’re happy for your friends in relationships. You’re done being jealous over all of the Instagram posts that you see couples making. You’ve learned to be happy for your friend’s happiness instead of wasting time being bitter over it.
  4. You actually enjoy doing things alone. You don’t mind going to the movies alone or grabbing brunch by yourself, because you’re able to ignore all of the weird looks you get. Even though some people will feel sorry for you, you actually feel sorry for them, because they don’t understand what it’s like to be truly happy with themselves.
  5. You focus on what really matters. You’re not blinded by your emotions, which is why you’re able to focus on moving up the career ladder and making new friends. You spend your time doing things that will make you happy instead of trying to make some man happy.
  6. You stop getting embarrassed. The questions your parents ask about when you’re going to settle down are still annoying, but you’re not embarrassed to announce that you’re still single anymore. It’s not something to be ashamed of, and if your family can’t see that, it’s their loss.
  7. You’re more comfortable around men. Even though you’re happy being single, that doesn’t mean you can’t go out on dates. Whenever you get dinner with a guy, you don’t stress out as much as you used to, because you don’t care if your first date leads to a second and are just able to enjoy the moment.
  8. Your standards raise. You’re happy being unattached, so the only way you’re going to date is if you find a guy worth your time and energy. The more comfortable you are with your single status, the higher your standards will become.
  9. You aren’t as self-conscious. There’s no one you’re actively trying to impress, which is why you’ve stopped being so self-conscious. If someone doesn’t text you back or return your smile when you make eye contact, it’s no big deal.
  10. You become a better person. If you stop focusing on turning yourself into someone a man could be proud of, you’ll become someone that you can be proud of. Once you come to terms with being single, you’ll find yourself loving yourself more than ever before.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.
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