Everyone needs at least one best friend — and try as he may, no guy can take the place of your closest buddy in the world. Here’s why she’ll win out every time:
- She sticks around. There’s something to be said for someone you know will always be there for you, no matter how long it’s been. You could go years without seeing each other — though you definitely shouldn’t — and you could pick back up right where you left off. You know that she’ll always be an integral part of your life. That’s more than you can say for most guys, who sadly will come and go. She’s true blue forever.
- She’s invested in you as a human being. She has no ulterior motives — why would she? She simply cares about you as a person and enjoys who you are. This is the truest kind of love you’re going to find in your life. She’s chosen you as a best friend because she values who you are, what you stand for and what the two of you share. She doesn’t just want to sleep with you or hang out with you because you have a nicer apartment than her or whatever. It’s not about what you can do for her, but what she can be for you.
- She’ll be there for you when you’re seeing someone new… She’s just as excited as you are because she wants you to be happy. She knows that you’ll be just as pleased for her when she’s in the same situation. The best part? You can tell her all the stupid little stuff that no one else wants to hear and she’ll love it. She’s your biggest cheerleader and she’ll keep all your secrets as well.
- … and after he breaks your heart. It sucks, but be real: you’re not going to end up staying with most of the guys you date. That’s just the statistics of life. Just as she was happy for you in the beginning, she’ll be there to support you after it’s over. She’ll listen to you cry, give you uplifting advice, and help you navigate your new single life. Then, when you’re doing better, you can enjoy fun times again. She wants to help you heal because she loves you more than he ever did.
- You can tell her anything. And I mean ANYTHING. She listens and takes it all in without judgment or scrutiny. She lets you be exactly who you are, so you feel free and comfortable with her. Think about it — how many guys have you dated that you could honestly say that about? There’s always some need to please or impress, especially when everything is tangled up with sex and physical attraction. It can get to where you forget how to even be the real you with him. Not so with your bestie. That’s why you love spending time with her.
- She has more in common with you than he does. You’re best friends for a reason. You connect on a multitude of levels. It’s rare to find that with another person, so that’s why the two of you take your relationship so seriously. You love doing so many of the same things that pretty much anything you suggest, she’s down for and vice versa. It’s great to have a friend who’s up for anything. Most of the guys you date simply won’t share your interests to the extent that she does. It’s fine, but it makes her more exciting as a companion.
- You have the most fun with her. Admit it — you’ve definitely been in relationships, made plans with your guy and ended up spending the evening secretly wishing you were with your friends instead. It happens to the best of us. Because she and you are both down for whatever, you go on awesome adventures together. A lot of guys aren’t all that motivated to try new things with you — whether they’re only in it for the sex, too busy or just plain lazy. They already have you — why keep trying to impress you? You don’t feel like you need to dress up or be sexy for her, and you have a great time.
- She gets you. How many times have you or your friends complained that you like a guy, but the two of you just aren’t clicking on a deeper level? Not so with your best friend. The whole basis for your relationship is your connection. It should be that way with your boyfriend as well, but all too often you make choices based on a physical spark or other negligible qualities. Focus on the same requirements you would for a friendship and you’ll fare better. Still, it’s hard to find a dude who understands and sees who you are in the same way that she does.
- It’s a different — and arguably better — kind of love. If you’re in the most amazing romantic partnership ever, kudos to you. Unfortunately, most of you probably aren’t. Most of you are probably lamenting the imperfections of your relationships. Yes, you can have conflicts and problems with a friend as well. It just always seems to be so much easier to work on because you both know how much you mean to each other and you’re committed to figuring it out. In a romance, one partner is often less invested than the other or just plain lazy about dealing with conflict. Your best friend will give you that unconditional love you’re seeking.
- You have each other’s backs no matter what. You can always count on your girl. Whether you’re having family troubles, you’re in a financial bind or you just need someone to talk to, she’s there for you. There are none of the weird dynamics that can come along with relationships, no power inequality or feelings of obligation and guilt. You have so much love between you that there’s no room for that crap! This relationship is one of the most important you will have in your entire life. Don’t ever let a guy take priority over your best girl. Most likely, he’ll be long gone and she’ll still be there patiently waiting for you to come to your senses. Treat her with the love and consideration she deserves.
