You might think you’re either an introvert or extrovert, but you could be somewhere in-between both extremes! Perhaps you’re what’s known as an outgoing introvert, otherwise known as a social introvert. This means that you’re recharged by social situations but also need time to do your own thing. If that applies to you, you might also relate to these 15 signs.
1. Your social energy varies.
You don’t have the same level of energy for all social situations. You might feel amped to hang out with friends one night and then drained at the mere thought the next. Your social energy goes up and down, and it can be affected by your feelings, schedule, or environment.
2. You sometimes love being social.
You enjoy connecting with others and meeting new people. When hanging out, you’re charming and fun, which might make you label yourself an extrovert. Sometimes, you even feel recharged by social outings. But then…
3. You need regular alone time, stat!
You can’t spend too much time with others without feeling the strong need to retreat to your calm sanctuary. You need alone time on a regular basis so you can recharge your batteries and be alone with your thoughts.
4. You thrive on certain social interactions.
When you’re feeling energetic, you love getting out there and spending time with people whose company you enjoy. That’s the catch, though – you have to choose the right people to be around so that you feel recharged by the interaction, instead of drained.
5. You feel shy in certain situations.
Although you might feel boosted by social situations, this isn’t always the case. Sometimes you feel self-conscious or awkward, such as when attending a party where you don’t know anyone. If you feel forced to step out of your comfort zone, you might experience anxiety.
6. You wouldn’t call yourself an extrovert (despite what your friends say).
Despite your vibrant social presence, you know there’s more to your personality than meets the eye. You wouldn’t describe yourself as an extrovert, which is puzzling to your friends. They see you being so lively at social gatherings and assume you want to be invited to all the parties, but you do love your downtime, too.
7. You feel exhausted after too much social stimulation.
After a whirlwind of social activity, you want to retreat to your bed ’cause you feel utterly drained. When your energy’s been zapped, you require lots of downtime to recharge your batteries. Since you tend to absorb other people’s emotions during social interactions, this can be taxing.
8. You slowly let people into your life.
Although you enjoy social interactions and feel energized by them, you’re the type of person who takes their time to open up to others before you feel you can trust them. You pace yourself in friendships and relationships, guarding your heart so you don’t give too much of yourself too soon.
9. You have a small group of friends instead of tons of them.
As an outgoing introvert, you prefer having close connections with a select few individuals who truly understand you and share a deep bond with you. Quality over quantity matters more to you, and you value meaningful relationships over a large network of superficial acquaintances.
10. You struggle to say “no” to social invitations.
As an outgoing introvert, it’s sometimes difficult to set boundaries with loved ones who invite you out, like when you’re too tired to socialize and would rather stay home and curl up with your cats. You might force yourself to attend gatherings so you don’t disappoint anyone, but this can backfire by making you feel depleted.
11. You sometimes enjoy being the center of attention.
Although you’re an introvert, you’re drawn to the spotlight sometimes. Perhaps you captivate audiences when you give presentations, you love performing on stage, or you enjoy leading group discussions. That said, it’s essential for you to prioritize quiet moments, as these help you to reflect and find solace in your own company.
12. If you’re low on energy, you love rain-checks.
Admit it: you feel a huge sense of relief when a friend you were supposed to hang out with cancels your plans. But then, here’s where things get sticky: an hour later, you’ll be feeling like it would’ve been nice to go out. You can’t win!
13. You love having philosophical conversations with others.
A social introvert’s worst nightmare is small talk, it’s enough to make you run for the nearest exit and never look back! You want to talk about the meaning of life with people, get into their souls, and understand what they’re about, not talk about the weather.
14. You like being a wallflower sometimes.
Something that sets you apart from extroverts is that you don’t always need to have the spotlight on you in every social situation. While it can be fun sometimes, if you’re in a mellow mood you prefer hiding in the shadows where you can observe others.
15. You need to plan social outings in advance.
Unlike extroverts, you don’t always feel comfortable with being spontaneous when it comes to social outings. You’d prefer to make plans ahead of time so you don’t get stressed out – or pulled away from your favorite hobbies.
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